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Post time 2014-6-19 21:40:25 |Display all floors
PPsally Post time: 2014-6-19 14:49
Thanks, you're right. It's just that he's a still fine person to talk to. He knows me more than an ...

Yes you should cut all ties.  It will hurt but in the end you won't be torturing yourself and can move forwards and find a decent man.  While you carry pain and suffering any man you date will be "second best" in many ways and that's not fair on you or him.

Walk away, cut the strings and move on.  It might sound harsh but it's honestly the best way to deal with a situation like this.
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xuedongi60 Post time: 2014-6-18 20:01
As a Chinese man,I think that you'd better do not remain friend with him.It is very unsmart.As a say ...

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heroes521 Post time: 2014-6-19 22:46
I think you are right.Your words is wonderful!

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Post time 2014-6-20 04:55:36 |Display all floors
You should not stay friends with him, Sally.

For one thing, you might become The Other Woman, and ruin his current relationship.

Let him know that if he wants to come back to you, he has to be single and be willing to give it an honest try. (You both should read the book 'The 5 Love Languages' first.)

In America, we have a movie from the 80s called 'When Harry Met Sally', featuring Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan. Billy Crystal's character (Harry) has a part in which he theorized that a man and a woman cannot REALLY be friends, because at some point, the man will want to have sex with the woman and mess it up. I think there's some truth to that, ESPECIALLY when the people were romantically involved previously.

Now, let me just quote a couple things, to clarify it:

"...But it's all too late. I know he'll never get back to me. He said that we still could be friends.  Could we really be firends?"

(later)

"He kissed me just like before. I'm so confused with this "relationship". What was he thinking?"

You see? Harry was right!

Good luck, Sally. But not with him, I think. ;)

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