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Having graduated from the college and worked for 2.5 years, as a famale, I gradually get a sense that's shaking my value for life. In the school years, I was nurtured with the idea of the gender equality and encouraged to do better than boys. But when it comes to the workplace, the common expectation for a famale is quite another story. |
The role as an OL needs both capacity for tasks and affinity for coordination. But when I talked with a male colleague, Mr.Tse, that I am not so well at dealing with the interpersonal relationship, he said with a peaceful and sincere smile, "As a girl, you'd better not be so shrewd." He said men expect ladies to be simple and happy. "The simpler, the better."
Why do men hold such expectation for women? Tse did not explain and I didn't ask for further explanation, considering for that the topic about capacity might be sensitive among colleagues.
But not only the colleague, but also my parents, don't think I should spend so much time on work and self-improvement. Though they did not ask me to find a boyfriend explicitly, they always cast an eye of contempt and indifference on my struggle for work.
So, a capable and full-fledged OL that make contribution to the society, who I am making effort to be, could be repellent person! That' really disappointing.
My best friends always encourages me to pursue with my heart. But in China, one's development and success are greatly based on the social hub, which means I can not just be myself. As a Chinese girl who is the only child born in the baby boom in late 1990s by the parents of the 40-50 group(those who was born with famine, grew up with the Culture Revolution, and mostly lose their job in the reform of the state-owned enterprises), my parents' expectation for me, mingled with their unrealized life dream and the traditional identity of a ideal lady in Chinese culture , bring to me the habit of trying my best and considering others' feeling are deep-rooted habits as well, which gives me an inevitable overloaded mind.