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This post was edited by Smaug at 2013-12-8 00:49|
Who can tell me how to choose a boyfriend? I always want to find an ideal one but never meet a suitable one.
It seems a lot of Chinese women are waiting for an IDEAL man. 'Ideal' means perfect, or nearly so. There is no such animal. Women in general need to be more realistic, and Chinese women in particular. It seems that only with age do they adjust their expectations down to reality.
Should I date with the boy who wait for me for more than one year? But i don't like him and I don't want to heart him.
It is nice that he has shown is dedication to you by waiting for you. Are you sure you don't want to open your mind a bit, and give him an honest chance? Some women turn down nice men like this, then live to regret it later in life, when they cannot even find anyone nice.
But if you're SURE he's not the one for you, you should tell him so. Tell him: "I'm not interested in you romantically." and yes, I think it would be a great act of friendship to introduce him to a nice lady friend of yours.
Do you know, I had a girlfriend one time like that? I met this lady when we worked together in a camera store. She liked me, I liked her, but she was not single. So she introduced me to her friend. Her friend was OK, but nothing special to me. Still, we started to like each other. Then, the first lady who introduced us decided she liked me better than her boyfriend. So she dumped her boyfriend and took me back from her friend! I know, that's terrible. I should have stayed with her friend, as she was not as exciting, but she was a better woman, and much smarter too. But I was young and naive, and went back to the first lady. Dated her for 2 or 3 years. I wound up breaking up with her because she was dishonest, she cheated on me once, but I forgave her. Then, she would not commit to any kind of education or finding a good job.
The moral of the story? I should have stayed with the less exciting woman who had a better heart, rather than going for something I perceived as more exciting or more ideal at that time.
The best relationships are with someone we can talk with, open up to. The rest can follow easily enough, but if you cannot talk openly with them, it is doomed to fail.
Good luck in your search for the ideal man! ;)