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As a highschool student, should I tell my parents that my girlfriend is pregnant   [Copy link] 中文

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Post time 2013-10-29 21:13:21 |Display all floors
Boy, that is a tough call. If you were American, I would recommend an abortion, as American kids are not mature and responsible enough to make the decision to keep the child.

But you're Chinese I think. Think and talk through it with your girlfriend. Think through it yourself too. Is this girl one that you could stand to be with the rest of your life, or does she a lot of bad traits? Encourage her to think of you in this same way when you are not there. Think long-term. Imagine each other in 20 years. (I know, that's hard for high-school aged kids)

Does she have career aspirations? If so, are they ones that she could accomplish with a child. For instance, if she will have a career as a doctor or lawyer that requires lots of study in the next years, she will either need a LOT of support from you and both of your families, or she will have to give it all up to keep the child.

It can be done. There were girls I knew who got pregnant in high school and decided to keep their babies. Here, everybody is having sex when they are high school aged, so people who look down on them for that are just naìve.

She will either have to become a housewife, or you both will need support from both of your families.

The thing to do is figure out what YOU TWO want. If you are willing to handle this big responsibility at this young age, and your parents will help, they I think it can work.

But if there is any doubt? Abort the fetus early. The longer you wait, the harder it will become.

If you abort, it will be heartbreaking to your girlfriend. She may not know it yet, but she is already attached to that baby. She has already thought of it as her son/daughter and imagined it growing up.

Since now you are only 14 or so, the child will be grown by the time you are 32. You can get on with your life then, and know your grandkids when most Americans are just having their OWN kids. You will even be able to know your great-grandkids.

If you will keep the child, you have to both commit to it whole-heartedly.

Once you two have decided what you would like to do, then the next thing is to approach your parents together. Maybe after a family dinner, you will say: "Mom, Dad, we have something to talk to you about..."

Then, after you've dropped that bomb on them, go to her parents together and tell them.

As a high school age kid in China, is she allowed to get an abortion without her parents' consent? If so and if you decide to abort, then get it done and be more careful. Use condoms and get a period tracker app.

Don't listen to these people who are being so emotional and "shouting" things at you. People like that have no class and as such, their opinions aren't worth respecting. Consider everything together, make your decision together, and face life with your chin up. Keeping the baby will be a difficult path, but I can tell you it is also very rewarding in other ways. It will make you grow up quickly, yourself. Is that something you can handle? Having your life dedicated to the care of two others as such a tender age?

Abortion is a polarizing issue. Some people feel it is murder, and no amount of discussion about science can convince them otherwise. Their minds are closed. Others feel it is our right to choose. I try not to get emotional about it.

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Post time 2013-10-29 21:15:42 |Display all floors
Now, my PERSONAL viewpoint, as a new father: (my daughter is 19 months old now)

If you abort, you two will regret this for the rest of your days.

If you DON'T abort, you will regret it only for the next 18 years. But if you don't abort, figure out a way for you both to still achieve your career aspirations. You will have to give up all social life except your family dedication, and you will need support from your families.

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Post time 2013-10-30 00:57:24 |Display all floors
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Post time 2013-10-30 03:57:45 |Display all floors
lau_guan_kim Post time: 2013-10-29 19:21
You meant pumped, didn't you?

The pornagraphic magazines rejected you.

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Post time 2013-10-30 04:20:59 |Display all floors
This post was edited by Bandito at 2013-10-30 00:24

If you are old enough to dip in, you should be man enough to take your blows! Deal with it and quit bleating.
Accost the father and promise to marry his daughter as soon as practicable. This will hasten the decison to visit a clinic once your pimply face is sighted!
No, I live above Sunset Plaza, it's a little house I rent and it's a little rundown but has a beautiful view, what about you?

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Post time 2013-10-30 09:29:30 |Display all floors
lau_guan_kim Post time: 2013-10-29 03:21
Criminal to take a life!

You let bugs, rats, and other vermin run wild in your house?
If capitalism promotes innovation and creativity then why aren't scientists and artists the richest people in a capitalist nation?

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Post time 2013-10-30 10:27:14 |Display all floors
Be a MAN and own your actions..   Don't KILL a baby just cause you're scared...  

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