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snowipine Post time: 2013-10-13 14:30
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Yes I agree that traditionally man have been in the position to be the family providers.
Let me go deeper in my explanation.
Many Chinese women are currently single, especially those older than 30 years. They are in search of looking for the right guy, in many cases preferring to be single instead of being with someone, despite the cultural pressures laid upon them. In theory these woman are in search of someone to love, care and protect them in addition to them being attractive, financially stable with some social standing.
Okay lets just say they find such a guy, go through the romantic stage, prepare for the wedding e.g.
Everything is going well. Then straight after marriage, the woman doesn't see intimacy as part of their union. They just see their husband as the provider and security for the family. If this is the case, why wait for some long in finding the right partner, why not just marry the first guy that comes along if the end result will be the same. We as humans naturally need to feel the love from our partners through touch, intimacy and love making. You could almost argue that, maybe many guys fear marriage and commitment in the first place because of such situations after marriage.
Lets turn the situation around, for a lot of women after pregnancy physical appearance and confidence are an issue. What if the husband had a problem with his wife's physical appearance in avoiding showing her the same intimacy he did pre-marriage/birth. How would the wife feel if her own husband rejects her because of the way she looks? This is quite a common problem, weather its a lack of confidence from the woman's side or the husband actually feels less attractive to his wife. Either way, someone out there will find this guys wife attractive, no need for me to you how this story ends!
In this situation, if it is real love the husband should support his wife, give her the closeness and intimacy she needs to keep that bond they have going.
You see without intimacy, its very hard for people who are unfaithful to see the wrong that they are doing. No one wants or should be in a relationship the rest of their life without that close connection.
Relationships are about balance, a balance of many needs, love, understanding, caring, patience, support the list goes on... a lack of anyone of these can challenge the harmony of a marriage.