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China’s leftover women, what do you think?   [Copy link] 中文

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Post time 2013-8-20 16:03:14 |Display all floors
DSseeing Post time: 2013-8-20 13:39
Tell her to grow up..
Too old for playing.
If I were her father, I would have a serious talk with  ...

It's typical of Chinese thinking. Do you think it is right to interfere in your children's life? It's their life and they have to make their own decisions.

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DSseeing Post time: 2013-8-20 13:39
Tell her to grow up..
Too old for playing.
If I were her father, I would have a serious talk with  ...

I feel she is already grownup!  She has the right to make her own decisions and not bow to the pressure of some stupid culture.

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foreignchinese Post time: 2013-8-20 16:01
There are no such thing as leftover women. Each woman has her own inner beauty and goodness. It's ju ...

I couldn't agree with you more. By the way, I like your way of speaking. Humorous.

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Parents globally seem to think like the Chinese, though in many cultures they are not so vocal about it. It's much the same in most Asian cultures, once you hit your late 20s or early 30s and are still single your family will really start pressuring you to marry and settle down.  One exception to this is Singapore where people often tend to marry later due to the nature of Singaporean society.

Women here in Australia are not considered "left over" if they don't marry young, but in many families the parents will hint to girls and to a lesser extend boys that it's time to start looking for a partner. It's more subtle and most families have the interest of the children at heart, if the kids don't want to marry then it's okay. From what I've seen it's the mothers who are the most pushy, mostly due to the bragging rights associated with grandchildren and they are known to nag single daughters and suggest suitable mates. Just how much of this goes on and is serious rather than light hearted is a matter of some speculation.

What I do know is that by the time people are 50 in Australia some 40% will be living on their own.

Food for thought?
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Post time 2013-8-20 16:32:11 |Display all floors
I have two female friends who are over 30 but still single. Both of them feel great pressure from their parents and friends. I don't think blind date is a bad thing and I met my husband on a blind date.  

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This post was edited by 1584austin at 2013-8-20 17:09
amylhz Post time: 2013-8-20 16:32
I have two female friends who are over 30 but still single. Both of them feel great pressure from th ...


Great, I also think it's a good thing. If it doesn't work for some it does for others.

While in the UK I know the females are not under the same pressure as girls in China by their parents, but sure there must be blind date dating agencies

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Ratfink Post time: 2013-8-20 16:24
Parents globally seem to think like the Chinese, though in many cultures they are not so vocal about ...

Thanks for your comment. And it is a bit different in China. Apart from parental pressure, they have to be under great pressure from the society. They are being demonized, prejudiced and viewed as abnormal and weird.

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