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Well, it seems that you are unable or unwilling to adjust to living in China.|
He is vague and hesitant to discuss this tricky topic: that is The Chinese Way. If you keep pushing, he will be evasive, then eventually, he will get angry if you keep pushing him.
You said he has a good career there. He also has parents to take care of, I bet. In order to continue this relationship, either you have to be more Chinese, or he has to be more American. Of course you both make efforts to do both, but one person has to make the sacrifice of losing one's homeland.
My feeling is that he would be happier in the USA than you are in China. Most people who immigrate to the USA are happy, if only they make some effort to adapt. Even then, we have our sub-cultures here. For instance, if you lived somewhere near a good Chinatown, so he doesn't have to TOTALLY give it up.
Here is my suggestion. Talk to him about this. Tell him he cannot avoid it forever, and suggest that we just face it now with an open mind.
Suggest that you stay in China with him for now, but that he needs to apply for a visa to become a permanent resident in the US. If that is too much at first, get him a tourist visa and at least take a long vacation here. Let him see what normal life is like here. Clean air, less crowding, less competition everywhere, less stress, better healthcare, longer lifespan, more freedom, etc. Make an agreement that you will pay together to help his family immigrate here, so that you can take care of BOTH of your families.
It is a lot of work, expense, and time, but worth a try if you really love each other.