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This week was a little hard for me emotionally. My dad is not well in health and i will prepare a long trip to be with him. My nephew who last month was around my home has left and I miss him so much. Last Tuesday my daughter who just has finished the high school departed to a trip with her classmates to Europe, I missed to meet her in Washington airport to say good bye and good trip that for working matters made stay here, at the end I finished the week with a strong headaches that pushed me to see the doctor, finally I feel better.
Well, last Wednesday morning me and my wife were in a taxi going to the city when I got the call from my daughter, she was calling me from the airport, she got her boarding pass already and after some suggestions and sweet phrases of care and love almost at the end of the call I threw one of my common questions to her ¨ok baby, one more question, do you have bf ?¨ she as usually release a shy laugh and said ¨no, daddy, when I have it I will tell you¨, I replied her ¨mi amor (my love) I don´t say don’t have it, if you have it or not or when you have it, just be careful, I trust in you and I know you will know how to choose a good guy¨, she said ¨sure daddy, promise¨, so few more sad words and I left her depart, she was in the way to her departure gate. I hanged the phone and I kept silence but I felt my wife was staring on me, she saw me sad and she said ¨how lucky is your daughter¨, I assumed she was reffering to her trip but she kept talking ¨when I was young my father never talked about love or bf or relationship to me or to my brother, he said I have to study and not to think about bf¨, in a way to comfort her I said ¨my parents neither but they never discouraged me to have gf and I introduced them my ex gfs to them to make them feel well¨. During the short trip in the taxi and after, we talked a lot about our differences of our childhood and parents, where again I saw in my wife some disappointments.
Anyway, things has changed, nowadays the youth face more challenges in life and we (the parents) should prepared them to face sometimes the cruel reality.
I had long conversations with my daughters, both are well centered and well prepared in theory and I feel they are ready to surpass or to face the ups and downs in life. My older daughter already is a professional and has a excellent bf, seems she was lucky, was well prepared or simply smart, the guy is a really nice guy.
Nothing is guaranteed in this life, even with a good family education or with an excellent academic preparation we are not free to live bad experiences in any field but if the parents give to their children the confidence, support and balanced examples and advices could make the difference or reduce some risk in future. Never imposing but suggesting, never directing but guiding, never yelling but making conversation, especially listening to them, if we don´t listen to them or invite them to talk we never will know what is going on with them.
Talk, talk and talk to them.