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Two years ago after a long trip by Latin America and US for work matters and visiting my relatives I gained weight from many dinner invitations and forgetting to visit the gym, I ate a lot every where. When I came back home in China my wife introduced me some new neighbors. One day while my wife and me were walking our dog, she introduced me an old man, we shaked hands and when I turned ahead them to keep walking my dog he said to my wife ¨he looks strong and he has a little belly but not much¨, I heard my wife answered him, ¨after a travel he always gain weight¨. Last week my wife told me ¨Mr. Liu saw you the other day walking the dog and he said you have good shape now¨, honestly I was expecting he said how I am or how is work or something else.|
This kind of ¨observations¨ brought to my mind other similar situations. After getting out of a shop with two of my employees, just getting out one of them said to the other one ¨She has some wrinkles, did you notice it?¨ the other one replied her ¨yes, she looked younger¨. Watching some internet Latin news with my wife, an older woman narrating the news, she said ¨she is fat and her eyes are ugly¨ (referring to the anchor) I told her why sometimes criticize the people´s looks and not what they are, she said ¨I´m as good observer¨. But things went a bit far with neighbors who at nights are dancing in groups of couples or only females dancing different music outside our home, the gossips for people´s hair, people´s clothing and people´s look in general are a bit akward for me.
The extreme for me was another comments from some Chinese friends, my daughter studied in US and has a bachelor degree in International Business , she is currently working in an American company and she sent me her resume with her picture to try to find a possible position in a company in China or in Hong Kong, when I showed it to my friends who are in business, they said ¨she is beautiful, she should try to make tv commercials or modeling¨, I told them ¨how come? come on guys, she studied a career, not for commercials¨. I have many experiences like this.
In my culture also exists this kind of comments or critics but sometimes not after the first sight, maybe it happen when the topic comes in a conversation and many others just avoid to drop irrelevant comments.
Is ok after the first contact eye to talk about other´s looks?
Are they good observers, too observers or too critical?