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Dawn_Chen Post time: 2013-2-15 23:02
hey, how is everything going there? did my suggestion help?
Thanks for following up, Dawn. I was sure everyone had forgotten this thread, but I saw in an Alert that you replied! It has been a while, I had to re-read the thread and find your original suggestion:
Yes, trying to stay emotionally cool is hard for me. But I'm getting better at it.
This is not a cultural thing at all.
I am a native Chinese girl and had such experience before, i am pretty sure there's no culture difference on this point.
She seems matural than you, it will be a bit challenge to you.
I suggest that you just be a good listener when she talks about that, don't take that too serious,( at least pretend that you don't care at all).
cause if she really didn't take you serious, being jealous can never help your relationship.
So, just listen and smile, when she find you don't care at all, she will become curious and worrying, she will start to ask you if you really love her or not, but she can never blame you that you don't trust her. And finially make she care about you more.( of course this is under the condition that she really loves you.)
If she doesn't love you, being a pacient listener can never be a bad choice, either. What is more, this can finially make sure where exactly you are in this relationship.
I am chatting with her now, typing here as I await her replies. We're still "together". My divorce is still pending, looks like we might settle soon, instead of going to trial, so that is good news. Then, I will fly to China to spend some more time for her this spring.
For Women's Day yesterday, she made a date with four of her old coworkers. Told them all about me and showed them our vacation pictures, that made me very happy.
Things are still moving forward, albeit slowly. No more fights on jealousy issues. We chat every day, usually twice a day. Talk on the phone every week or two. We're growing closer, despite the distance that separates us. Now, it is just the waiting that is hard.