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|No way. She has been single 7 years. We work in an international company, she has plenty of chances to talk to western guys. She did not pursue me, I pursued her.
Your gf is already a prosperous woman as you described, she doesn´t need extra money but
in her mind she could think that she deserve something better than a local man, probably she thinks a foreigner is a good option to acomplish her dreams, a white man , to have white children.
She's not like that. She's the least materialistic person I know. She can afford a car, but chooses not to have one. Rather, she lives where public transit is all she needs. She never buys anything she doesn't need, but when she needs something she buys the best one she can find. She doesn't need me in any way, least of all for status.
In China society succesful people (same as regular ones) lives in a constant competition, who makes more money, who have better background, who have better house, better car, etc. and..........also who have a ¨better¨ love partner and a white foreigners is the best option however he looks, mabye the last part of my observation is what she cares more and its what i think.
You know, we chatted again today, and she is considering dumping me for my lack of faith in her. If she does, then it will all be a moot point. I'm not going to give ground here. My feeling jealous because she said "OK" when someone offered to find her a boyfriend is never acceptable to me. I will forgive her for it if she doesn't do it again, but she wants me to promise to have complete faith and trust in her. I said if I were that kind of guy, I wouldn't be an atheist.
That's my opinion. But you know, sometimes I'm not as good as I should be at keeping my silence. Keeping my mouth shut at work, for example...
When somebody is in love there is not room to keep silence, you know that right? ...and a person could be discret and keep private her personal life but when a person is in love should behave as is in love, simple.
You know, sometimes, I think she is cold, because she doesn't talk very much. Doesn't respond. When I met her and lived with her, I could tell she was feeling things, even when not talking. Sometimes, she is thinking. Sometimes, she is just feeling things inside. Many times, she would think with her arms around me. She's just a quiet person. Maybe I'm being naive because I'm in love and I'm going to get burned.
Again, my best advice is to get rid of her, all her answers in the conversation about your initial post makes me doubt in her.
She is cold as a rock and a challenging woman, i like challenges too but i never gonna challenge my wife or love partner.
I think what it is, is that she is a perfectionist, and has very high and unrealistic expectations from a man. She can have lots of things with me she couldn't have with a typical Chinese guy, but she will also lose some things. Like complete cultural understanding.
Thanks again for your advice.