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Post time 2014-2-28 00:28:53 |Display all floors
Laowai2? Post time: 2012-12-10 17:01
The red envelope is anonymous so who will know? 500 is far too much unless you are rich.

Sometimes the red envelope is not anonymous. One or two people would be arraged to gather red envelope in front of the door of the hotel or house, and wirte down the name on the red envelope once get it from the relationships. The purpose is to know the exactly how much was given by the individuals, some people think it is the evidence that if this guy is closed, or just more or less. on the other hand, the owner will take it as reference when he/she is going to attend others ceremony.

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Post time 2014-3-15 07:32:36 |Display all floors
In my view,it depends on you,nobody can make a decision for you.but once you have make your decision,you should know what's gonna happen,and make preparation for it.if you decide not to your friend's wedding ceremony,you should do something special to let him understand you heart.On the contrary,if you decide to go,you should make sure you can master any situation,ask youself: can I handle two things at the same time?About red envelopes,to me,it dosen't mater how much you give,but your sincerely wish maters.You can find some ways to express how you cherish the friendship between you two.This is my opinion.

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Post time 2014-5-2 15:29:43 |Display all floors
First, taking two days rest I believe will not affect your exams if you really prepare for it.
Secondly, give what you can offer to your friend. Don't force yourself to do what is beyond your limit. Wedding gifts is a self wish and not show of ones self.
Live beyond your means and care less about what people say about you if you do the right thing.
Its raining in Gz now just indoors

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Post time 2014-10-28 18:35:50 |Display all floors
This post was edited by carol-hubei at 2014-10-28 18:36

you won't be in a dilemma, if you are so close as you said. A short break wouldn't affect too much. A long journey wouldn't be an excuse, either. The final decision depends on yourself. If don't attent the ceremony, you'd better visit the newly-wed someday later. A special gift and a sincere heart is necessary. I believe your friend wouldn't care that much. As the matter of Red Envelope, it won't be a big deal, no matter you offer more or less. The point is your sincere wishes to the couple. To be frank, we usually offer 100-200 yuan, or a special gift, for a friend's wedding. Anyway, a close relationship couldn't be weighed by money.

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Post time 2014-10-29 01:12:14 |Display all floors
Today,I was informed of being attend his wedding ceremony in a few days.Yeah,he is one of my close friend may I can not search for any reasons to refuse his invitation in the light of our relation.However,he told me that the date for his wedding ceremony has been fixed by his parents.they are going to hold the ceremony on the morning of January 3.but the time of Postgraduate Entrance Exam is  start January 5..Moreover,there have a long distance between their home and my school,It cost approximately more than seven hours if I depart from my school to his home by train...Currently,I am at all sea.One one hand,he is my close friend and strictly speaking,wedding ceremony is a highly special banquet for every individuals and I also comprehend his motives,what he wanna is that all of his sincere friends would show up on that extraordinary moment and could give their heartful wishes to the two.On the other hand,this vital exam I have prepared for it more than half year is approaching and at present I am in fine fettle,I hope this kind of good condition would last until the end of exam.I can not ensure my attentions would not be distracted If I spend two days in attending his ceremony....As a result,I am confused by the matter.is there any reliable suggestions for me to cope with the matter? I also consider to give him a red envelope as my gift..However,I am in a dilemma toward the number of money I am about to put in the red envelope..yeah,when I mentioned the amount of money and one of my friend told me the number she ever gave when she attend her friend`s banquet is 500RMB.To tell the truth,which has really made me a little surprised,Firstly,what we expended in our daily life derives from our parents rather than being earned by ourselves.Yeah,If I have worked and I can obtain salary,may I also would have given 500RMB without any hesitation.Nevertheless,we are not....But,how many I should give?


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Never abandon a thread that you have made and especially if many people put their best to give you advices. That´s no nice.

It was two years ago, if somebody digged out this thread at least can you tell us what did you do ?


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Denial, according the psychoanalysts, is one of the most primary mechanisms of defense. It consists in the attitude of denying or minimizing obvious facts of reality with which the individual can´t  cope or whose irresponsibility is unable to meet.

And I agree.

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