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This post was edited by river16 at 2012-10-18 22:32|
408945969 Post time: 2012-10-18 21:42
you know girls
ugly/handsome+to be not too rich or not too poor+a good heart to wi ...
psychologically some women choose an "ordinary guy" because for an ordinary guy it is less likely they have affairs or ups and downs financially. but fact will show "being ordinary" has nothing to do with consistency or safety.
a friend of a friend mine, a young lady, she grown up in city and married a guy from rural eara, they guy's family is impoverished, but he himself has got a doctors degree on microelectronics or something and seems his future is very promising. at the beginning they were happy like most couples do, later problem arose, they started to have quarrels almost on daily basis, then the guy was found having an affair with someone else, then they ended up divorced. btw, the lady is a very beautiful lady and there was a long queue of pursuers.
i think for two chinese people to become together as a family, they should have the similar backgrounds and education. in the story, the lady, before marriage, should have been too idealistic to define her ture love. simply like "a guy neither too rich nor too poor, good heart" or something. she ignored there must be a content in postmarriage life, to fulfil the content two must have basic things in common. for the two in the story, the problem is, when they are together they can't really express and understand.
plus, you can't figure out if a guy's heart is good or not, because circumstances are changing continously throughout our life, so there are too many things may challenge/ruin your love and marriage. if a person's not capable of handling success, failure, temptation...there are a great chance his/her "good heart" changes. if you are smart enough, maybe you can judge if a person's heart is going to change.