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Malaysian women launch 'The Obedient Wife Club'
(AFP) – Jun 2, 2011

KUALA LUMPUR — A group of Malaysian Muslim women say they will fight divorce, domestic violence and other problems -- by appealing to wives to be more obedient, according to one of the organisers.

Maznah Taufik said "The Obedient Wife Club" being launched Saturday is aimed at drawing women who will be taught how to please their husbands better to prevent them from straying or misbehaving.

"We just want to ask all the wives to be obedient wives so that there will be fewer problems in our society," such as infidelity, divorce and domestic violence, she told AFP.

"Obedient wife means they are trying to entertain their husbands, not only taking care of their food and clothes," Maznah said. "They have to obey their husbands. That's the way Islam also asks."

Malaysia is a Muslim-majority country, with some 60 percent of the population practicing the religion, alongside large ethnic Chinese and Indian communities who are mostly Buddhist, Hindu and Christian.

According to local media, the country's divorce rate doubled from 2002 to 2009, with rates higher among Muslims than non-Muslims.

Maznah said it was also the men's responsibility to teach their wives to be obedient.

"Some wives, they just want to get married for leisure but they don't know the responsibility," she said.

"To entertain their husbands is compulsory. If she doesn't do this, the husband will look for another woman... and the house will break down."

Saturday's launch near the capital Kuala Lumpur will include speeches and a show to demonstrate to women how to be good wives, Maznah said, adding that a similar club was set up in Jordan last month.

Maznah is already involved in another controversial venture -- the Ikhwan Polygamy Club, which was launched in 2009 to promote polygamy. Muslim men in Malaysia can take up to four wives.

She is herself in a polygamous marriage, as the second of her husband's two wives.

In 2010, a study by a Muslim activist group found men in polygamous relationships find it difficult to meet the needs of all their wives and children, and that the result is often unhappy and cash-strapped families.

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(AP)  JAKARTA, Indonesia (AP) — A new club in Indonesia that encourages women to be totally obedient to their husbands and focus on keeping them sexually satisfied has generated an outcry from some activists.

The Indonesian branch of the Obedient Wives Club, launched early this month in Malaysia, claims to have about 300 members in several cities. Group leader Gina Puspita said the club would offer its members a package of teachings including how to treat their husbands in bed.

"A wife has to be 100 percent obedient to her husband in all aspects, especially in sexual treatment," she said.

About 50 women and their husbands attended the Saturday launching of the Indonesian branch of the club at a restaurant in southern Jakarta.

The club was founded by the conservative Islamic group Global Ikhwan in Malaysia, where hundreds of women are members. Organizers claim they can cure social ills such as prostitution and divorce by teaching women to be submissive and to keep their men happy in the bedroom.

Husein Muhammad, a commissioner of KOMNAS Perempuan, an Indonesia commission on women's rights, said "such a club is needless" and would not get support in the country.

"The obedience should be from both sides — husband and wife," Muhammad said Sunday. "Such a club just places women as subordinates, and a marginal group."

Indonesia's government guarantees equal rights and opportunities for men and women, though some Indonesians are dissatisfied with discriminative bylaws imposed by local governments promoting strict moral values.

Ellin Rozana of the Women's Institute sees the club as a wrongheaded effort to fight prostitution, which she said is caused more by poverty than by husbands' unfulfilled desires. "Such a club is backward in emancipation and respect of women's rights," she said.

However, Makruf Amin, of the influential Indonesian Cleric Council, said he saw no problem with the club as long as it does not violate principles of Islam.

"As long as it just wants to teach good things to the wives, that is OK," he said.

In 2009, the same group behind the Obedient Wives Club set up a branch of the Polygamy Club in Indonesia, which also upset women's groups and religious leaders in the world's most populous Muslim nation.
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OWC Malaysia

"Islam compels us to be obedient to our husband. Whatever he says, I must follow. It is a sin if I don't obey and make him happy," said Ummu, who wore a yellow headscarf.


Despite the group's conservative Islamic background, Rohayah Mohamad, one of the founders of the club, openly talks about the virtues of marital sex even though most of her colleagues are shy about the topic.

"Sex is a taboo in Asian society. We have ignored it in our marriages but it's all down to sex. A good wife is a good sex worker to her husband. What is wrong with being a ### ... to your husband?" she said.


"This way, the family institution is protected and we can curb social ills," said Rohayah, the club's vice president who is also a trained physician.

She said wives must go beyond the traditional roles as good cooks or good mothers and learn to "obey, serve and entertain" their husbands to prevent them from straying or misbehaving.

Indirectly, "disobedient wives are the cause for upheaval in this world" because men are not happy at home and their minds and souls are disturbed, she said.
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Anti-OWC Malaysia

The club, founded by a fringe Islamic group known as Global Ikhwan, has been dismissed by politicians and activists as a throwback to Medieval times and an insult to modern women of Malaysia. But the group's activities, which previously included the setting up of a Polygamy Club, show that pockets of conservative Islamic ideas still thrive in Malaysia.

Groups such as Global Ikhwan are unlikely to gain much popularity beyond generating shock value. Still, there is concern that radical groups could garner support among other Muslims, who make up 60 percent of the 28 million population, and upset decades of carefully nurtured racial and religious harmony.

"Unfortunately even today, there are still many Muslim women who are ignorant of their rights or culturally inhibited to exercise their rights in full," said Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, a female Muslim minister in charge of family policy.

Some Malaysians started a Facebook page called "We do not want sexist nonsense from Global Ikhwan."

One Muslim man, Amirul Aftar, wrote: "I do not want a wife to submit to my every beck and call. I want a wife who understands me ... we are not your masters, we are your equal."

Women's group, Sisters in Islam, said Islam advocates marriages based on mutual cooperation and respect. It said domestic violence happens regardless of women's behavior.

"Communication, not submission, is vital to sustain any healthy relationship," it said.
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OWC Singapore

Three Singaporeans have taken it upon themselves to pioneer a local branch of the controversial Obedient Wives Club (OWC).

Dr Darlan Zaini, a literature professor, Hamidah Ari and her brother, Azman Ari, are representatives of the newly-formed club in Malaysia that teaches wives to be more subservient to their husbands.

The OWC has been slammed by critics everywhere, saying that it degrades women by saying that it is the wives' duty to make love better than "first-class prostitutes" to solve familial problems.

According to The New Paper, Dr Darlan believed that with obedient wives, husbands are more likely to behave themselves and would be more responsible towards their families.

The 70-year-old said: "Some people agree, while others don't. More importantly, we believe that obedient wives can avoid various detrimental social problems such as prostitution, divorce, gambling, domestic violence and others."

Already, ten families have indicated their interest in joining the club.

But former registrar of Muslim marriages Tarsuni Maulan has reservations about the group.

He told the same paper, "Did the OWC base its findings on research or hearsay? I'm just concerned that by making such statements (on how wives should treat their husbands), it would make men big-headed and give them a free rein to mistreat women."

Last week, the OWC,  set up because some felt that the increasing divorce rates were due to 'disobedient' wives, became the ridicule and amusement ever since it was launched in Rawang, Malaysia.

Its international vice-president, Dr Rohaya Mohamed, said that wives should be encouraged to be more subservient to their Muslim husbands.
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Note that this bullxit OWC is largely condemned by Singapore and Malaysia. It does not represent the values of any religion.
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How sad.

Guess its just out of the question to expect men to behave on their own?

If you're a 'good' wife they won't hit you?  Is that the logic?

If you satisfy him in bed he will not stray?

If you are completely obedient he will not leave?

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