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Nooo,don't have these thoughts of suicide,don't ever think them again,as hard it is for you now and you wont believe me,but there are better solutions you will get through this and your life is sacred,think of your daughter and Mom you would leave behind,how this would hurt them!!You must be strong!|
Let's not think all negative,your husband cheated on you for 4 yrs yes,because it was easy,he see her every day and you didn't knew.That doesn't mean he don't love you,sometime men are like kids,what they shouldn't do become more attractive to them.Now that you know he is afraid and maybe got his "wake up call".Maybe now the excitement of having an affair is gone for him because he realizes what is at stake (losing his job,face,family..)He asked you to forgive him so he choses for his family.Maybe he or his collegue can ask for a transfer so they wont see each other anymore?
You are not alone in this one it happens to so many women and most get through it,because we women are that strong.Now I am not a counselor,is there a possibility for you to find one?Or do you have a close good friend who can keep a secret ,who can support you?It is no good to be alone and have to think of this all the time,you need someone who knows you through and through you can talk to.
If you want revenge don't go having an affair,the shame will be on you it will mean also the end of the family ending in a divorce,but in that case consider contacting Zhang,this is her blog:...lost the link will find it for you..
found it,but can't edit my post?Hmmm
visit Zhang's blog: blog.sina.com.cn/zhangyufen1957
even if you don't want revenge it will do you good to see what happens to some unfaithful husbands and their mistresses,hehe :)
anyway you said you like reading books,why don't you buy some books on the subject?You might find the right solution fit for you,how to deal with your feelings,your husband etc..
Time will tell you what to do,I hope you find both your way to make things work together,he should appreciate what kind hearted and loyal woman you are,he maybe now realize,talk to him.Maybe is also good to write things down to get it of your chest.
I wish you all the best!
[ Last edited by Kiki1971 at 2011-6-19 04:18 PM ]