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Post time 2011-6-17 16:45:43 |Display all floors
I would never forgive a husband cheating on me!!!How can you trust him ever again?Disrespectful and selfish!
Really, I would have kicked him out of the house,what good to stay together??You can arrange when he can see his child.I would rather be alone,ofcourse I have easy talk,I can live independent  and don't need a husband to have a roof above my head,I don't know your situation.
You have to think well through the positives and the negatives before make your choice,but arrrrr this makes me so angry!!

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Post time 2011-6-17 17:16:53 |Display all floors
Originally posted by Kiki1971 at 2011-6-17 16:45
I would never forgive a husband cheating on me!!!How can you trust him ever again?Disrespectful and selfish!
Really, I would have kicked him out of the house,what good to stay together??You can ar ...

thank you my friend. i am a chinese traditional lady. i have a good job. i did everything for him. as he is my husband. i dont want my family will be hurt. i care about his parents. i hope they are well. they dont know everything . they think their son is good. they and i live together .so i had to pretended to smile.

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Post time 2011-6-17 17:19:12 |Display all floors
Originally posted by Oriane2011 at 2011-6-17 16:26
in this state,will you revenge that insult ?

yeah, i want . but i cant. i am so nice .

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Post time 2011-6-17 17:34:11 |Display all floors
Originally posted by gqjsy6688 at 2011-6-17 17:16

thank you my friend. i am a chinese traditional lady. i have a good job. i did everything for him. as he is my husband. i dont want my family will be hurt. i care about his parents. i hope they a ...

I understand and it sounds like you made your choice already as traditional lady to sacrifice your feelings for the family,I respect that.
I am different,only traditional till a certain level,I would do also everything for my husband and family,but there are these 2 things that I can't accept,and that's 1) an unfaithful husband and 2) violence.But maybe if I cared for his family as much as you do,maybe I would take that all back and also sacrifice myself,although right now I find that hard to believe...

Much courage to you.

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Post time 2011-6-17 17:48:14 |Display all floors
He has done it once and will propably do it again and again. Don't appear weak to him...he will abuse this.
Patria est ubicunque bene/Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit

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Post time 2011-6-17 19:08:50 |Display all floors
Originally posted by gqjsy6688 at 2011-6-17 16:14


thank you so much. i know it. gave my husband second chance, but i didnt believe him. while we made love ,i felt humiliation. i can think about they made love . i  was angry. no one help me.

reasonable reaction from your side.Examine the reasons he did it.Was it serious?ask about his feelings towards you and her.
after all the above I will give you some advice.
After you have tested and examined all these situations and if you have decided to give a chance to your relationship ,never talk to him about what he did againNever become grumpy ,do not humiliate him.Do not use words to make him feel disgust for you.
Show him trust.If you do not show him trust you will not be able to rebuild your relationship again.

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Post time 2011-6-17 20:11:12 |Display all floors

In India too we have this traditional problems

Yes first of all i sympathize with you. Look now what has happened cannot be changed..no body can go back and change history. Every time u are with him, u will think of how he has spent time with his gf by cheating you. when ever you are not occupied with any other work you will certainly feel the hollowness in your stomatch and feel how you will be spending entire life with the cheater.
Even If you stop staying with him and stay saperatly , mentally u will still think of the cheating husband in all parts of the world , changing family , house,nation will never bring the situation back to what it was 4 years back..no matter what you do nothing will change the history.
You will feel like dying many times in a day.
There is no solution to this and the earlier you accept this it will be better for you.You have to consider that he is DEAD and continue the life...for you kid as it is not her fault at all ..why should she suffer for her fathers mistake?

You will have to spend maximum time AWAY from your hubby involving with many activities , start socialising and you wlll be amazed that there are worst problems than you are facing. Try to help them who are less blessed than you.Once you know that other people has greater problems than you...you will realise that your problem is small..unless you dont find problems greater than yours faced by your neighbouring friends you will not find any peace.

Have courage..best  once your daughter grows older you will find solance in her....why I am saying this is because i too as a kid has simillar fate as of your daughter ..Now I am 45 yrs ol married with2 kids and still stay with parents , though my married sister /brother say 45 and 60 km from our place and we meet regularly for many functions throughout the year like picnic ,travelling, staying together,social functions etc etc...As a kid I hated my father..but today I dont as it is my moral responsibility to look after them..

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