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This post was edited by markwu at 2012-1-8 09:38|
gqjsy6688 Post time: 2012-1-8 08:50
thank you so much. i understand . thank you for giving me proposal. everything i did alone is all ...
See, you still have a caring heart that tugs you away from exacting revenge. Yes, we shouldn't let bad emotions affect our judgement leading us to add to the pool of wrongs done. Copy code
- i think i will tell his boss, but its bad way for him . so i give up.
In the end, it doesn't matter on whom a wrong is done. One should try one's best not to do a wrong that will add to more grievances in life - a wrong done on someone else will boomerang back one day as an unexpected bad result on oneself. That is one of the moral laws of life.
We can only break this unwritten law if our action leads to a result that will be an improvement over the situation caused by the first wrong. Even then, we will still have to face up to possible consequences we cannot see at the time of reacting.
Think about that with a quiet mind at a quiet place.
Next, as you say, it may be good to go away for a while. But why do you have to leave the country? If it is a big country, you can always move to another city for a while. But that would also dislocate your daughter from her schools and friends, wouldn't it?
Why not this way? -> have a word with your family to take care of your daughter for a few weeks while you take off by yourself to go somewhere else as a break from your routine. A change of environment might well be a positive tonic for your flagging spirit.
You may want to share some free time with your friends. When doing do, try not to talk about family matters. Your objective is to detox yourself, not get supporters to remind you of what you are trying to forget. And you need to forget so that negative thoughts don't prey on your mind which may end up influencing you to do something your heart will later regret. Yes?
After sometime by yourself to regain your equilibrium, return back to your daughter and family with a cheerful smile and uplifted spirit. Bring your daughter a surprise present. Your family members as well for taking care of her. This shows you remember and value them despite your own problems. This shows you can think of others before thinking of yourself. This shows you have the inner courage to overcome any obstacle in life. No?
Take life one step at a time. Because life's events come to us one stage at a time. It has been said that each human being will be given at least one crisis in her.his lifetime. Maybe you are facing yours now. If you hold onto good thoughts and remain compassionate to all - including yourself - then you already have the means to overcome the crisis. If you let the crisis affect you until it changes your inner character and conviction, then the course of your life may change downwards because your mind has changed the way you look at things and situations from positive to negative.
I know it is hard. Because women have that special quality of giving their all to their men. They associate their lives and identities with their men so if those two measures are affected, it is natural to be terribly affected inside.
That sad feeling may however spread over to your daughter who is innocent to the situation. You should do everything you can to maintain normalcy for her so that even if she can see through the cover, she will appreciate later when she grows up how much her mother has held herself up for the little one she loves so much.
There are a few more moral laws of life. But for today, one is enough.
Now, smile, make yourself a hot cup of tea, sip it slowly, and take it from here one step at a time. You'll be alright. (If still not, talk to the mods)