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Do You Need Counseling?
你需要咨询吗?


If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.


  如果你感觉你的愤怒真地失控了,如果对你的关系及生活重要方面正产生冲击,你也许要考虑咨询,学会如何更好应对它。一名心理学家或别的获得执照心理健康专家可能和你一道建立一套来改变你的思考和行为的技巧。


When you talk to a prospective therapist, tell her or him that you have problems with anger that you want to work on, and ask about his or her approach to anger management. Make sure this isn't only a course of action designed to "put you in touch with your feelings and express them"—that may be precisely what your problem is. With counseling, psychologists say, a highly angry person can move closer to a middle range of anger in about 8 to 10 weeks, depending on the circumstances and the techniques used.

  当你和将来一位医疗师谈话,告诉他或她你有愤怒方面的问题,希望。。并询问他或她对愤怒管理采取的方式。一定确信这仅仅是旨在于"接触你的感受并表达它们“的课程--那也许恰巧就是你的问题。通过咨询,心理学家称,根据情况和所采用技巧不同,一个高度愤怒的人可能在8-10周的时间变得中等程度愤怒。


What About Assertiveness Training?
主张力训练?


It's true that angry people need to learn to become assertive (rather than aggressive), but most books and courses on developing assertiveness are aimed at people who don't feel enough anger. These people are more passive and acquiescent than the average person; they tend to let others walk all over them. That isn't something that most angry people do. Still, these books can contain some useful tactics to use in frustrating situations.


  的确,愤怒的人需要变得有主张(而不是冒犯),但是多数有关培养主张力的书籍、课程针对的是那些感觉到愤怒程度不够的人。这些人比普通人要更被动、顺从:他们往往让别人支配。这不是多数最愤怒人所做的。不过,这些书可能包含了一些在令人沮丧情况下采用的有用策略。

Remember, you can't eliminate anger—and it wouldn't be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. Controlling your angry responses can keep them from making you even more unhappy in the long run.

  记住,你无法消灭愤怒--如果你能,那也不会是一个好的想法。尽管你的一切努力,总会有另你生气的事情:而且,有时候它是正常的愤怒。生活将拥有沮丧、痛苦、丧失和别人无法预测的行为。你无法改变:但是你能改变这些事情对你的影响。控制自己的愤怒上的响应可以不让它们叫你长期更为不快乐。

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Controlling anger before it controls you
在愤怒控制你之前控制它
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