How long does it take you to trust a person?

raymondlam

I am not someone who will trust easily.It takes me along time to trust someone. I cant measure that in months or years.To be honest, even myself is confuse on how can I give my trust. what about you?

xilaren

Originally posted by raymondlam at 2009-10-20 16:50
I am not someone who will trust easily.It takes me along time to trust someone. I cant measure that in months or years.To be honest, even myself is confuse on how can I give my trust. what about you?

Trusting people has got limits.Any time I see a friendly behaviour from a person I take for granted that this person is trustworthy.
So this is the beginning for me.I can not doubt people from the very beginning.I can not live without trusting.

So first step for me is trusting.
After taken for granted that the person is a friend and trustworthy then I start being careful and test gradually how many things I can reveal and trust on him or her.
I never give everything to a friend ,I never open my heart widely unless I am  one hundred percent sure.
So the more I get near somebody the more I trust this person.
People who are not trustworthy enough they can not be hidden for a long time.They show their real face soon.
Can you make a conclusion of what I am saying?I do not know do I trsut enough or not?I am not sure.

msconfused

They say it takes time ...

But I say better not to put 100% trust in people, so you will not put yourself in a situation where you get betrayed by people who you think you can trust. Maybe I myself isnt a trustworthy person :)

canada_man

Originally posted by raymondlam at 2009-10-20 16:50
I am not someone who will trust easily.It takes me along time to trust someone. I cant measure that in months or years.To be honest, even myself is confuse on how can I give my trust. what about you?

First, you yourself must establish that you are a totally honest, trustworthy person. Do this by divulging pertinent info. about yourself.
Best rule of thumb: The more you are "open" and honest about yourself, the more "open" and honest the other person will be.
Does the other person do what they say they will do?
Honesty, openess and truthfulness will establish "trust"    :victory

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Originally posted by raymondlam at 2009-10-20 16:50
I am not someone who will trust easily.It takes me along time to trust someone. I cant measure that in months or years.To be honest, even myself is confuse on how can I give my trust. what about you?

TIME.

rounder

Now it's hard to trust people. Also people are hard to trust you.

Jani

I think this is very complex problem.
maybe you would trust the person who you just see first face and you fall in love
maybe you don't trust the person who you work together many years but can't guess what 's mind in his heart.