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Saturday, July 04, 2009|
I chatted with one friend this morning, about the different lifestyle. We have something in common, we both didn’t go for university because of the poor family, I went out for job at middle school and she went out for job after high school.
We both went for self-educated test and studied commercial English, and we are at the same age, she is 5 months younger than me. We both worked as foreign trade and we met each other in our QQ group, we found that we are close to each other and then we chat quite often.
We both messed up for our life. Last year, she went back to her hometown and found a job as foreign trade, it is hard to find a job as foreign trade in her hometown, and finally she got one but she has spent up almost all of her savings. And the salary is poor, she told me that she was kind of regret with this decision.
She is a independence girl, and kept on study, she told me that she has kept on study for nine years and still going on with study. We have another thing in common, for we are both single and confuse with love affair.
She said:’ I see some girls, which in their 20s, they meet some boys and cohabite with them, then she doesn’t go out for work any more, she stays at home and the boy supports her spending, what do you think of them?”
I said”” Oh, I can’t do that, compare with China tradition, I can only live with a boy after marriage.”
She said:” We are both out of date, what is the meaning that keep virgin till marriage, you know they are living pretty well, they don’t need to work, they spend boys money, and live happy. You and me, work so hard to get marry but I know that you are lonely.”
I said:” That is true, sometimes I feel lonely.”
She said:” I am talking about a lifestyle, I don comment which one is right and which one is wrong, all depends on. But what I am trying to tell you that it is not fair, we work so hard but we don’t get as much as they can, don’t you think we are failure at that aspect?”
I shocked, I have never think that I need to depend on others for my living, and I do work hard to get what I want instead of ask someone to give it to me, am I choose the wrong lifestyle that put too much pressure on me?
I said:’ I think that lifestyle isn’t health.”
She said:” I am agree with you, but now I know maybe we are wrong, who care about it? we just put too much attention to the so-called china tradition, maybe only we care but even boys, they don’t care about it.”
Then I am more messed up.