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Thursday, May 07, 2009|
After long consideration and determination, finally I decided to buy a house of my own, a small house, in a not-so-good area but a place around furniture factories, so that at the future I can find a job nearby necessary. I consulted some building, gathering information etc, and I plan to go for a visit at this weekend.
I talked to my friend, I told her:” I am going to visit some building at this weekend and I will have my future location be settled down.”
She immediately response:” No, don’t do that, you are wrong to buy a house before marriage, how if someone approaches you because you have a house but not really love you?”
“Is love relates with house?” I could not understand:” I met some guys who bought a house by installment before their marriage, they are very proud of themselves, they add their advantages to their condition and select their Miss Rights strictly, I think it is same thing when a girl buys a house of her own before marriage.”
“ You know you are 27 now, and when a boy at their above 27s is capable of buying a house by installment, why bother to buy one yourself?”
Then I told her frankly:” It is quite interesting when I date with a boy with a house; they complain about my disadvantage, for example, my height, my family background, etc, and I am really don’t think they are the excellent one, when the one who are not capable of buying house, as I marry him with my money and according to the law, it is our both money, why not put the money to the house, nobody can take it away as my name is written in the house certificate.”
She said:” You think it is good that someone marry you because you have a house?”
“ I buy it by installment, I pay only 20%.” I told her:” if he moves in, he will have to share the rest of the payment and others, it is very fair.”
“They think you are cheating them because you ask payment for the house together.” She said.
“What?” I scared:” I am not afraid he cheats me and he afraid I cheat him?” I have the house and me for marriage, if he is afraid of that, not need to talk at all, in other word, when I marry someone that already buy the house and after marriage we pay for the debt tomorrow, am I not worry about he cheats me and get me out of his house when quarrel? For it is his name in the house certificate?”
Can I call it more confusion about marriage and relationship?