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Post time 2009-4-12 23:30:43 |Display all floors
my friend told me her story. it really make me shock . she has a mate from froeign country and she was very nice to him, oneday, the friend asked her to his house and keep his promise not  to push her to do anything that she doesn't like. so she came to his house ,but the man cant keep his promise. in that case ,my friend  hurt badly. now she even cant trust man again.and i feel so sorry for her but i dont know what i can do for her . should i tell her the man in this world u cant trust or the all man are  bad as him?

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Post time 2009-4-12 23:46:06 |Display all floors

Don't say anything to her ...

Originally posted by clarissa at 2009-4-12 23:30
my friend told me her story. it really make me shock . she has a mate from froeign country and she was very nice to him, oneday, the friend asked her to his house and keep his promise not  to push  ...



Let her calm down and sort out her feelings about the bad experience.

Some things take time to heal.  Jumping to conclusion that the man or all men are bad will not do her any good.  Just be by her side and lend her your shoulder if she needs it.  Give her all the encouragement you can as her friend but surely the man cannot be trusted again or forgiven.

Depending on how he has hurt her.  If she has a case, as in rape, then go to the police and make an immediate report.

Otherwise, it can be a sticky situation ~~ coz the man can say anything against her, especially, when she was the one who went to his house; and not him forcing into hers.

Date rape is getting common and happening to many young girls; naive and trusting.



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Post time 2009-4-12 23:56:06 |Display all floors
Originally posted by whampoa at 2009-4-12 23:46



Let her calm down and sort out her feelings about the bad experience.

Some things take time to heal.  Jumping to conclusion that the man or all men are bad will not do her ...

THANKS FOR UR SUGGESTION.
yes it is true that the young girl havent learn how to protect ourself and trust some one so easily,
maybe as u said we are still very naive.
but i cant imagine how the man can do this things for a little girl in our locus.
i really want to ---- him out of here.

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Post time 2009-4-13 00:07:21 |Display all floors
Originally posted by clarissa at 2009-4-12 23:30
my friend told me her story. it really make me shock . she has a mate from froeign country and she was very nice to him, oneday, the friend asked her to his house and keep his promise not  to push  ...


Did your friend report the incident to the police?     

let the police investigate

And see if there are legal grounds to charge that man!  

Did she go to the doctor and collect medical evidences for the possible court action against the man?

This is the least she could have done after the  incident!      

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Post time 2009-4-13 00:13:20 |Display all floors
Originally posted by thunderbird at 2009-4-13 00:07


Did your friend report the incident to the police?     

let the police investigate

And see if there are legal grounds to charge that man!  

Did she go to ...


if she did how can she stay in this place. she was so hurt in heart but she has no choice to do it .
she needs to peace herself and forget that . and i dont wish that  she askes for help from the police ,in that case , everybody would know her private life, i think it  is not  good for her future,

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Post time 2009-4-13 00:37:10 |Display all floors
Originally posted by clarissa at 2009-4-13 00:13


if she did how can she stay in this place. she was so hurt in heart but she has no choice to do it .
she needs to peace herself and forget that . and i dont wish that  she askes for help from  ...


So the man can victimize other women in the future?   

However

Your friend is free to choose her action      



If I were your friend

I would report the man to the proper authority

Hiding the hurt in heart is no healing for anyone!



How are you going to help your friend?

Please share with us!         :)

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Post time 2009-4-13 00:44:22 |Display all floors
Originally posted by thunderbird at 2009-4-13 00:37


ifI were your friend

I would report the man to the proper authority

Hiding the hurt in heart is no healing for anyone!




I w ...

ok what u said it is the "if" but not the truth , if that was u i dont think u can peace urself so well.:)

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