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Wow, I'd just like to say thank you to each of you for your comments, both positive and negative. I know that none of us holds all of the keys of knowledge to any particular problem, so I'm grateful to hear various sides of an issue. |
To my way of thinking, the issue here is life and what I am capable, and comfortable doing. As I said in my original post, I could never be a soldier. It just isn't in my make-up. But that's okay, as there are obviously lots of things that I am not suited for. However, something that I am suited for is to donate my spare kidney. And since my respect for soldiers knows no bounds, I would really like to do something for one of them.
Some can argue that because God gave us two kidneys, he must have done it for a reason. To that charge, I say that perhaps the reason he gave us the extra one was so that we could give it away and save someone else's life. We don't need for everyone to do this; if less than 1% would donate, the need would be eradicated. Just like we don't need everyone to be a doctor, farmer, businesswoman, etc... Each of us has a valuable - and distinct - role to play. This is mine.
Anyway, as I pointed out, between my identical twin brother and myself, we have four good kidneys. So for me, the risk is not nearly as great as it is for the average person.
As to the charge that I am merely seeking publicity (for myself), I plead half-guilty. I am seeking publicity, but not really for myself. I want to accomplish three things with my spare kidney.
First, I want to save another's life. Although I am no longer religious, I was raised to believe in the "Golden Rule". I can't escape, nor do I want to, my thoughts about what I would want should I be in need of a kidney in order to live. I would surely want someone, anyone, to give me one of theirs.
Second, if I can save one life by giving my kidney, it will be worth way more than the small amount of inconvenience to me. But if, because of publicity, I can show some others that this isn't all that dangerous and well worth the risks, then perhaps others will donate their spare kidneys and many others will be saved.
Third, because I am an American happily living in China for 5+ years, I would be honored that my donation would generate enough publicity that it would cause both Americans and Chinese to reconsider some of their negative feelings towards each other. One need look no further than this very BBS to understand what I mean. (This is the reason that I rarely visit these pages anymore.)
As to an update, nothing has come of my request for assistance except for these 15 or so comments. The truth is, I have spent the past two years trying to work this problem through the back channels (or, if you prefer, the 'right' way.) Because I have had NO SUCCESS, I have decided to go public. I'm 48 this summer and if I can't donate my kidney to a Chinese by next summer, then I shall donate it to a person from the nearest country, perhaps Australia or Japan.
And finally, Rong, I agree (and applaud) your words that we have to help the Earthquake victims. I can assure you that I am doing everything in my power to be of assistance to them. But I would remind you (and everyone) that what most people need money can't buy. Think education, friendship, love and yes, kidneys.
I'm a bit hesitant to post this link, but I think that I must, because I now realize that cynicism is rampant in our world, not because of the good people, but because of the bad. I believe that there are more of us than there are of them, they just attract all of the attention - they create all of the (negative) news. (Please note that the video was posted to YouTube almost two years ago and that I have been a member here for even longer. The truth is, I value my privacy, but I value helping others more.)
My point in posting it isn't to draw praise to myself but rather to encourage all of you to live your life to your fullest potential and don't ever not do something merely because of what others will say about it. There will always be both positive and negative comments as there are always positive and negative sides to everything.
To dear Mengzhi, your kind words really touch me, but I must offer a confession. I believe that all people are narcissists - that each of us, and this definitely includes me - does what we want because it makes us happy. I am the lucky one here, as I have found what makes me truly happy - and that is helping others. Some people never find anything to make themselves happy.
Again, thank you all for posting your comments and to everyone else who simply stopped by to read. If you know someone, or know someone who knows someone, and they are in a position to help me reach my goal, please do not hesitate to contact me. What follows are some links to some of my blog - Ru Zi Ke Jiao.com - posts that I believe are worth reading.
Our cities are full of empty shelters
What help does this man really need?