Originally posted by qizhiye at 8-5-2008 10:36
it's so ashamed that confessing I am turning on 81, zero gf record.
many people ask edme why, it just happened not met the right women.
I see there are many people sharing the same feeling wit ...
Dude firstly you definitely shouldn't feel bad about it. It's natural despite it probably seems like everybody around you's feeling the love - you'd actually be surprised at the amount of people without SOs!
That said, if a 0 bf record is troubling you that much, I agree with auchengyu that you gotta be active. It'll sure as hell increase your chances. Basically, I follow the - be confident, look guys in the eye, smile (not giggle) and converse formula. If you have self confidence, it does shine through (and if you're lacking in that department, play pretends - you'll never believe how easily they're fooled ;) ) and it seems guys are attracted to that. I suppose because you're giving out the 'I'm approachable and open to new relationships vibe'. And smiling is so important. I find that smiles brighten up even the dullest faces - it makes everyone beautiful. And you're a interesting person, let others know - treat guys who catch your eye like your normal friends and let them see your personality!
Personally I love being single and free to do whatever, flirt with whomever. Relationships don't gel with me, right now at least. Life's too short and there's still so much I gotta do before getting tied down by a guy! So I say - enjoy your freedom while it lasts :)
I am 60, look pretty good (so many years as an athlete) , have a lot of money, am a writer, musician, have a factory, am funny, smart, good at problem solving, am kind hearted and generous, and I can not find a gf! (a "proper" gf)... so I eat alone, and of course, sleep alone... yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! So, I just keep working...