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How to Get Empty Time|
By Martha Beck
There are three key words when it comes to getting empty time: prioritizing, protecting, and promise keeping.
Try this exercise: First contemplate the to-do list you're carrying in your head or your planner this very day. Now imagine that you're reading the list many years from now, moments before your own (peaceful) death. Which of the items on the list will you be glad you did? Which will mean nothing? If nothing on today's schedule offers soulful nourishment, write in some empty time. Add just a few minutes of nothing to your daily schedule, and empty time will begin to work its magic. It will reconnect you with your core self, the source of pure joy you felt in your sweetest memories. Soon the restorative power of empty time will become self-evident and you'll make it a high priority for the same reason you make breathing a high priority: It keeps you alive.
请试这个练习： 首先，在心中考虑”待办事物清单“或当天计划。 然后现在想象自己是在许多年以后在你（安详）的死去之前正阅读这张清单那么你会对哪件做过的事感到高兴对哪些感到毫无意义？如果今天这份日常安排表上没有任何事物能为你提供心灵滋养那么就加入一些空闲时间。在每天日程表上添加几分钟”空闲“时间那么空闲时间就将发挥它的神奇作用把你同你的核心自我--最甜蜜记忆中的纯粹快乐源泉--联系起来。不久它具备的恢复力量将会不言而喻而你也将会把它赋予高优先级：原因和在你在对待呼吸的优先级别一样---是它让你活着。
In our obsessively busy society, you may be hard-pressed to convince family and acquaintances you need empty time. My advice is, don't bother. Just excuse yourself, firmly, unapologetically, with minimum information. Say, "I'm sorry, I have an appointment at that time" or "Nope, I'm booked" or "I need 15 minutes alone." I've gotten excellent results with these simple, straightforward statements. Memorize them (or write your own versions), and practice saying them out loud. They'll roll off your tongue more easily in real-life situations.
在我们太繁忙的社会中也许你很难说服家人和熟人你需要空闲时间。 我的建议是，别麻烦了。只要不带着道歉态度地坚定地用最少量信息为自己找托辞。说：“抱歉，那时我有个约会”或“不，我有预约” 或“我需要15分钟独处” 我已经忘记了这些虽然简单但直接的话语会带来多么好的效果。 记住它们（或者写出你自己的版本）并练习大声说出。那么在真实场合下它们就会脱口而出了。
Once you've given empty time its rightful priority and practiced protecting your boundaries, make a daily, ten-minute appointment with empty time. Give your core self this brief period of attention, and it will connect you with your real thoughts and feelings, your passion and purpose, the life you are supposed to live—but only if you keep your promise! Finding yourself doesn't require that you fly to .., join a convent, or build a meditation room. Just consistently keep a minimal commitment to empty time.
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