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So the situation's about a single girl fallen for a married man?|
Wouldn't it be nicer to help mould a single man as the boyfriend so that he'll become the man married to the single girl later? Like the effort in baking a cake where you can put in the ingredients and toppings you like, rather than buy one off the shelf ready made and already reserved for someone else's birthday.
Furthermore, if the married man doesn't see the single girl as someone's daughter or sister more than as someone innocent and starry-eyed about him, then he's just making use of her indirectly to inflate his ego. How can a single girl not feel bad about that knowing such a foundation for a relationship is one-sided, no matter how many nice words are exchanged?
The sad thing about relationships is that whether married or single, all relationships ultimately reduce to making the effort to hold onto values, rather than physical or mental attraction. Values are what we believe in more than the memories we hold of the experiences we have had together with the person. This sounds terrible unromantic; that's why there are children to provide the continuing glue to hold everything together, and when that glue weakens, grandchildren come along, as well as old friends, new hobbies, travelling together, some social service, etc.
If this sounds complicated, simplify it to three things to do: one, walk away and stay away - out of sight, contact, mind. Two, find a replacement that's less complicated. Three, start a hobby while waiting for true destiny to wake up and do the right thing.
Sometimes all the good is being done when one does nothing.
But if these suggestions don't work, it's destiny then. But assuredly, there will be consequences. Good or bad for all? not known.