well exportedkiwi; you're the resident expert I think and I tip my hat to you as I am at a loss for words
if you don't mind sharing your wisdom and insight - i have always felt it is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.... would you agree, sir?
Lol, I'm no expert but I've been around and taken some hard knocks by love, the most was recently when the woman I loved and was going to marry was killed in a traffic accident in Guangzhou. Yes, I think it's better to have loved and lost, but that doesn't mean we have to like losing. the grief I've been through recently was almost too much to bear and I hope that my friends here don't have to suffer it for a very long time, if at all!
In the past thousands of years, countless people strived and died for their ideal and their nation. It was the price of love. But more heroic people followed them. Why? Love! Though your striving gives you grief, you still devote yourself to it, because your are a noble, loyal and faithful person!...
For thousands of years? I'm not aware nationalism has been around for that long.
A good book to read on nationalism is called imagined community by Benedict Anderson, it's a fairly standard university text. It may help you decipher where this love for nationalism comes from.