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Originally posted by changabula at 2007-8-7 18:08
What is shyness, and how should I behave in the presence of others?
Why do I lose confidence when I am around other people, especially of the opposite sex?
How can shyness cause me to suffer ...
1) You should stop seeing women as a different species. Look at them as friends, and just treat them as friends.
After you’ve had a few girlfriends you will realise that they are a different species, and although that may be frustrating, that is also what makes them so easy to appreciate
2) Remember that lots of women will be as nervous around you, as you are around them.
3) A lot of nervousness comes from fear of failure. Failure to be cool. Failure to make a good impression. Failure to wear the right clothes. But don’t worry. Everyone fails. For example, when I was 16 I went on a date with a lovely lady. For the date, I wore tight black jeans, a white tank top, my hair was long at the back but short on the sides, and I didn’t wear any shoes. I thought I was cool. Thelady didn’t, and so our relationship did not progress. I cringe now at that story, and many other stories, but it is only by failing, and trying again that you improve yourself.
Just as failure is likely around your first experiences with women, you will probably fail around superiors. Don't worry. Do your best, make your mistakes, and learn from them.