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Post time 2007-8-9 23:44:27 |Display all floors

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Post time 2007-8-10 02:31:13 |Display all floors
Same problem here. Something I cannot control.
When I was in middle school, teachers picked on me because I wouldn't talk. One of them said I don't bite. In my mind, yeah you do bite woman. You just don't know.
When I was in college, I tried joining social clubs. Didn't make any friends because too shy to approach to people. Didn't go to any events because feeling not fitting in. Though, I made alot of friends in college because of my room mate and my neighbors. They had a lot of friends coming in and out and all of them talked to me. They were a bunch of sociable people. Though, I made a lot friends but most of the time, I am by myself. Too afraid to ask my friends to hang out with me.
As I age, I said to myself that I have to fix this disorder. Last year, I joined dragon boat. As always, I didn't make any friends. This year, I joined dragon boat again. I met some people because they approached to me.
Next year, I am planning to volunteer for the Olympics, if they accept me, and try to make friends.
I am setting goals for myself to conquer my fear. Maybe you should try to set some goals too. Join some social clubs.
If you are volunteering for the Beijing Olympics, we can meet up and start a shy club. :) I'll let you be the president of the club. hehe.. :)

BTW, I love your jokes on other posts.

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Post time 2007-8-10 07:29:06 |Display all floors
Hey you:

Originally posted by heyyou at 2007-8-10 02:31
If you are volunteering for the Beijing Olympics, we can meet up and start a shy club.  I'll let you be the president of the club. hehe..

BTW, I love your jokes on other posts.


Thanks for the invite. You are kind.
I am Chinese and Proud of it!

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Post time 2007-8-10 07:38:43 |Display all floors
Originally posted by northwest at 2007-8-9 23:15


Those words are gems.


Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth.


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Post time 2007-8-10 07:40:21 |Display all floors
Some people just don't listen, always thinking the answers to problems are somehow complex psychological problems, when the truth is explanations are simple. Do a little research, and you will find that the basis for shyness is in most cases being overly selfish in regards to you're own feelings and comfort, and lacking real empathy when it comes to that of others. When trying to talk to someone, are you thinking about what you can do to ake them feel at ease, or are you thinking about what you can do to make you feel at ease. Are you thinking about making them comfortable, or about making yourself comfortable, and how uncomfortable you may be. Are you dweling on you're own feelings, or putting them aside to help the other person. You see, shyness is a disease, and a very very insidious one, and if you are not careful, it can ruin you're life. So please Changabula, pay some attention to this simple wisdom instead of looking for answers in pop psychology and self help nonsense.

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Post time 2007-8-10 07:47:28 |Display all floors

Shyness is a choice

you choice to be shy...why not choose not to be shy?

Especially easy on a forum behind the safety of your computer.

Have some practice here.
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Post time 2007-8-10 07:48:50 |Display all floors
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