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Post time 2007-8-8 11:13:41 |Display all floors
I have the same problem,but i got the solution now.
I will try my best to do everything well.

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Post time 2007-8-9 10:40:43 |Display all floors
Originally posted by changabula at 2007-8-8 01:08


Not only red faced.

By withdrawing, not speaking up, or being so preoccupied with myself that I don’t pay attention to others, I may leave the impression that I am stuck-up, unfriendly, bor ...



I have the same problem as you do. when I was still in school, my roommate has told me about that. and now I am getting better now. when i do not know what to say.I just wear a smile. anyway, I think smile is suitable for most of the case. but learning how to talk with people is really very important. So I am trying to do that too. hope  we have good luck:):)

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Post time 2007-8-9 11:04:10 |Display all floors

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Post time 2007-8-9 18:24:20 |Display all floors
Originally posted by zglobal at 2007-8-9 11:04
""""" Are these practical tips or just silly? """""

Chang my friend. It's easy.

Find a mentor.

If your scared of meeting people, meet them ...


Thanks very much.

I really appreciate your help.
I am Chinese and Proud of it!

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Post time 2007-8-9 22:44:48 |Display all floors

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chang my friend, drink more beer, it's a great equaliser, hehehehehe! Seriously, we all have to grow out of shyness in our own way. Luckily, I grew up in a big family, was a soldier, had a rest for a while and then came to China so really, I had no time to learn how to be shy. I think we learn to be shy and because of this, we can unlearn it too. relax mate, life'll happen for you one day, hopefully soon!

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Post time 2007-8-9 23:13:01 |Display all floors
Originally posted by changabula at 2007-8-7 18:08
What is shyness, and how should I behave in the presence of others?

Why do I lose confidence when I am around other people, especially of the opposite sex?

How can shyness cause me to suffer ...


Just sharing Chang,

I had exactly the same experience as yours.

The change now maybe because of the thinking. This phrase is good "you know you're not perfect and it doesn't bother you."

Don't live by other's expectation and don't be too worry on how other's look at you.

This need time, the more you interact with people, the deeper you understand that people are not so 'strange' or different from us.
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Post time 2007-8-9 23:15:19 |Display all floors
Originally posted by zglobal at 2007-8-9 11:04
If your scared of meeting people, meet them.
If your scared of dancing, dance.
If you have little hair, shave it off.

Shyness comes from fear of the unknown.
We all know that the unknown is worse than we perceive....


Those words are gems.
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