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Originally posted by kensei at 2007-8-8 09:03
Changabula, shyness is part and parcel someone overly conerned with themselves. Most shy people are actually extremely selfish and solf involved. They ten to care more about their own feelings and ...
I read these tips on overcoming shyness:
(1) With time and effort, behavior can be changed. First of all, stop worrying about whether the other person is evaluating you. He is probably too busy thinking of himself and what he will say and do. And if that person childishly pokes fun at you, understand that he has the problem. Those who are worth having as friends will judge not by outward appearances but by the kind of person you are.
(2) Try to think positively. No one is perfect; all of us have our strengths and our weaknesses. Remember, there are different ways of looking at things, different likes and dislikes. A difference of opinion does not mean a rejection of you as a person.
(3) Learn also to judge others fairly. First, don't be too self-centered by thinking too much about yourself, worrying about what people thought of what you say. Second, don't assign bad motives to the other persons — not trusting them and thinking they were going to look down on you.
(4) Think the best of people, not the worst. Learn to quit assigning bad motives to people. Tell yourself: “They’re going to be understanding, they’re going to be kind, they’re going to be considerate.” Begin to trust people. Realize that some might misjudge you, but is their problem.’
(5) Learn to be sensitive to the other people's needs, to think in terms of helping them.
Are these practical tips or just silly?