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Post time 2007-5-25 10:10:29 |Display all floors

He is an American.

Yes, he will definitely has to pay child support and his wife if he gets divorce.  But do you think it's smart to save up some money first than go straight to ask his wife for divorce?  According to his wife's current living standard, he has to pay more than the normal standards.  So he thinks that is better to make some money first then go for divorce for the better future of him and the girl whom he loves.

Originally posted by tirpitz at 2007-5-25 09:59
If he is an american, living in america, he has no choice put to pay up. The fact that children are involved, and the fact that his wife does not work makes it worth. Basicly if he gets the divorce ...

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Post time 2007-5-25 10:15:30 |Display all floors
He better save some money up because after the divorce he will need a new place to live.
Would it not be better to use the time more wisely and try to save his marriage? If he tried as hard to better his marriage as he tries to save money and sneak around at the same time, maybe????

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Post time 2007-5-25 10:16:20 |Display all floors

Probably....

He might cares for his wife, bcoz she is his children's mother.  Of couse he must have some feeling for her.  And she might be a likeable person.  But that is not love..  
Yeah, I know is hard to say without knowing all the details...   But he is the guy who loves to work.  So there's one thing is for sure which is he doesn't feel that his work takes out the time he should have fun for...
Anyways, feel that you are a Chinese, aren't you?  Just from reading your replies...

Originally posted by windycityusa at 2007-5-25 10:07
If a guy doesn't love his wife, then how come he let his feelings of his wife comes first??

Perhaps he still cares for her, but he fell out of love for her. For sure  ...

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Post time 2007-5-25 10:21:04 |Display all floors
Yes, but I guess when you don't love your wife no more, then you would also go for another woman whom you really love.  His marriage is the mistake he made, so now he has to fix the problem.  But of course it's crule for his kids, but they also have to understand that it's his own life too.  Don't know what to say, but would be glad to see the couples who really love each other will eventually live happily ever after....
Best wishes to them!!  :)
Originally posted by windycityusa at 2007-5-25 10:15
He better save some money up because after the divorce he will need a new place to live.
Would it not be better to use the time more wisely and try to save his marriage? If he tried as hard to be ...

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Post time 2007-5-26 19:26:02 |Display all floors
Originally posted by jessieyang7 at 2007-5-18 00:55
hey, nice to all....
Plz...give me some help if you don't mind.
i wanna know something about american love, what sort of love will american have or what kinda love they would like pursue. how's a ...


do you got any feelings on him.... or love?

if not, forget him like a common friend and you have nothing to worry about.

if yes, just get in touch with him as what you do to a Chinese boy ---- when it is time to kiss, to kiss; time to make love, make love... time to say goodbye, say goodbye; time to marry him, marry him ---- that's all, isn't it simple? You just think too much on only one sentence said by him and bother yourself.

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Post time 2007-6-12 21:22:36 |Display all floors

Reply #1 jessieyang7's post

Sometimes a girl may think she is simple because she is looking at herself with her own standards.  Someone from another culture and another country sees the world through different eyes, and he sees your 'simple' as 'special'.  You can ask him why he sees you as 'special'.  You mentioned your man is busy with his research.  In my experience, you often see Chinese girls choose the guy who may be regarded as a 'nerd' in the US (or in Australia, where I am).  'Nerds', however, usually become successful in their careers and build a good future for a family.  It's a good choice!  Try to see him in a variety of situations, and maybe travel with him to other countries.  You will soon see whether his love is something that will last.

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Post time 2007-6-12 21:38:19 |Display all floors
Originally posted by rose87 at 2007-5-25 09:58
And plus, he's not playing..  He does think too...  Moreover, his wife hasn't found out that he's having an affair and wanna divorce......
Listen, Rose - You must help that other woman.  Her married boyfriend is a player.  If what you say is true then he's playing with his wife and family.    But you can't believe anything he says because he's dishonest.   And he's a liar.  And a cheat.  Sounds like a real gem!  Tell her to run!

Let's pretend everything he says is true.  What's he going to do when he falls out of love with this girlfriend?  He's already shown that he falls out of love with women, hasn't he?  Next he'll find someone else and won't tell her until he leaves, just like he's doing now.   

It's more likely the girlfriend is the one getting played.  He will never leave his wife and family.  He's just saying that to keep her hanging on.

Here's a big clue:  Men don't save money to get divorced.  Men save money to get married.  Once married all the money he makes is part of the family income that will be split during a divorce.  So the more he saves during the marriage the more he'll have to pay out during the divorce.  To truly save money, he must first get divorced.  His excuse for not getting divorced is that he hasn't saved enough money, right?  He never will, Rose.  It's all a lie.  But it does sound good to his new little girlfriend, doesn't it?

Tell her to never speak to him until after he has signed divorce papers in hand.  She'll never see him again.

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