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Post time 2008-12-24 00:38:49 |Display all floors

给我儿子的一封信
(来源:原版英语 中译:张馨月)
亲爱的塞思,

你现在只有3岁,在这个人生阶段,你还看不懂这封信,更难明白在这封信里我将要告诉你的东西。但是,我一直在思考很多关于在有你之前的生活,关于在我的生活中,只要我想起来我所学到的东西,关于作为一个父亲,试图为你将要在未来的年月所要面对的麻烦事所做的准备。
你现在无法理解今天的这封信,但总有一天,当你准备好了,我希望你能在我跟你分享的东西里找到一些有智慧和价值的东西。

你还年轻,生活已经不得不损耗你,不得不把失望,悲痛,孤独和斗争和痛苦带到你行进的路上。然而庆幸的是你尚未被长时间做着吃力不讨好的工作和日常生活中的打击所拖垮。

为此,要感谢上天,你正处于一个奇妙的人生阶段,并且许多美好的人生阶段还会来到,但是你想得到它们也要为此付出代价和承受风险。

我希望能通过分享我学会的经验中,最好的一些内容来帮助你走好人生之路。对于任何意见,就以半信半疑的态度来接受吧,因为对我起作用的东西不一定就对你起作用。

生活可能是残忍的

在你的生活中,你会遇到对你不好的人。他们会取笑你,因为你的不同,或者没有很好的理由,他们也会取笑你。他们可能会欺负你或伤害你。

对于这样的人,除了学会如何应付他们,就没有什么你能做的了,学会选择对你友好,真正关心你,让你自我感觉良好的朋友。当您找到这样的朋友,把握他们,珍惜他们,花时间与他们相处,善待他们并且爱他们。

生活中,你会遇到成功代替失望的时候,生活不会总是按你想要的方式进行。这只是你将不得不学会处理的另一件事。为了不让这些事情放倒你,你要接受失望并且学会坚持,尽管困难重重,也要坚持去追求你自己的梦想。学会把悲观变为乐观,那么在生活中,你就会做得更好。

你还将面临你爱着的人给你带来的心碎和遗弃你。我希望你不必面对太多这样的事情,但如果它发生,同样,你所能做的就是等待伤口愈合,并且继续你的生活。让这些痛苦成为你将事情变得更好的垫脚石,并且你要学会利用它们来使你变得更加强大。

但是,无论如何要对生活开放

是的,在漫长的人生旅途中,你会发现残酷和痛苦的事情...但不要因为那些东西,让你就对新事物关上了门,不要避开生活,不要躲藏起来或者自我隔离,要始终对新事物,新体验和新朋友开放。

你可能会心碎10次,但可能会在第11次爱情中找到最美妙的女子。如果你让自己跟爱隔绝,你将会错过了那个女人,以及你生命中最快乐的时光。

你可能会被你遇到的人取笑,欺负和伤害...然后在经历遇到几十个混球后,会找到一个真正的朋友。如果你和新认识的人隔离,不对他们打开心扉,你会避免痛苦...但你也会失去一些不可思议的人,这些人会在你生命中最艰难的时候会陪着你,并且创造出你生命中最好的一些时光。

你会失败很多次,但如果你允许自己停止尝试,你将错过那种获得成功时的感觉,那种感觉就是一旦你取得成绩并达到新的高度时所得到的令人惊异的感觉。失败是通往成功的一块垫脚石。

生活并不是一场竞争比赛

在学校里,在大学里,在工作中,你将会遇到很多想超越你的人。他们会尝试去拥有更好的车,更大的房子,更好的衣服,更酷的器具。对他们来说,生活就是一场竞争比赛-他们要做的比他们的同行者更好才能开心。

这里有一个秘密告诉你:生活不是一场竞争比赛。它是一个旅程。如果在旅程中,你总是试图让别人对自己印象深刻,超越别人,你其实是在浪费你的旅程。相反,你应学会享受旅程,使它成为一个幸福,不断学习,不断改进,和爱的旅程。

不必为拥有更好的汽车,房子或物质东西,甚至是更好的高薪工作烦恼。那些东西都无关紧,没有它会使你更快乐些。因为当你获得这些东西后,你就只想要得更多。相反,学会满足-然后利用那些时间,就是你想挣钱来买那些东西所浪费的时间,利用那些时间去做你爱做的事情。

找出你的酷爱并顽强地去追求它。不要满足于能支付你的帐单的工作。生命太短暂,不要浪费它在你所憎恨的工作上。

爱应该是你的规则

如果有一个字应该在你的生活中一起伴随你,那么它应该是:爱。这可能听起来是老生常谈,我知道...但相信我,在生活中再也没有比它更好的规则。

有些人会靠成功的规则生存。他们的生活将是紧张,不愉快和肤浅的。

其他人则靠自私的规则生存-他们的需求高于其他人的需求。他们将寂寞地生活,并且也将是不开心的。

还有一些人是靠正义的规则所生活-他们试图展示正确的途径,并告诫任何不靠那条途径生活的人。他们担心他人,但是却以消极的方式来进行,最终只会和他们自己所拥有的正义一起生活,那会是一个可怕的伴侣。

按照爱的规则去过你的生活吧。用你的全身心去爱你的配偶,你的孩子,你的父母,朋友。给他们所需要的东西,并在他们面前只表示你的爱,没有残酷,没有反对,没有冷漠,没有失望。对他们开放你的心灵。

不仅爱你的亲人,还有你的邻居... ...你的同事,陌生人...人类范围中你的兄弟姐妹们。向每个你遇见的人微笑,说善意的话语,做友好的手势,伸出援助之手。

不仅爱邻居和陌生人...还要爱你的敌人。那个对你最残酷的人,那个一直对你不客气的人...去爱他。因为他是一个在受折磨的灵魂,也最需要你的爱。

最重要的是,要爱你自己。在别人可能骂你时,学会不要让你自己对此感到非常艰难,不要认为自己是丑陋,或者愚蠢,或者不值得爱...相反,要认为你是一个奇妙的人儿,是值得拥有幸福和爱的人... ,学习去爱那个本来的你。

最后,我要让你知道我爱你,并将永远爱你。你开始了一个奇怪的,可怕的,艰巨的,但最终是不可思议的奇妙旅程,只要可以,我将会在那儿等你。祝福你。

爱你的爸爸

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Post time 2008-12-24 00:39:30 |Display all floors

A Letter to My Son



Dear Seth,

You’re only three years old, and at this point in your life you can't read, much less understand what I’m going to try to tell you in this letter. But I've been thinking a lot about the life that you have ahead of you, about my life so far as I reflect on what I've learned, and about my role as a dad in trying to prepare you for the trials that you will face in the coming years.

You won't be able to understand this letter today, but someday, when you're ready, I hope you will find some wisdom and value in what I share with you.

You are young, and life has yet to take its toll on you, to throw disappointments and heartaches and loneliness and struggles and pain into your path. You have not been worn down yet by long hours of thankless work, by the slings and arrows of everyday life.

For this, be thankful. You are at a wonderful stage of life. You have many wonderful stages of life still to come, but they are not without their costs and perils.

I hope to help you along your path by sharing some of the best of what I've learned. As with any advice, take it with a grain of salt. What works for me might not work for you.

Life Can Be Cruel

There will be people in your life who won't be very nice. They'll tease you because you're different, or for no good reason. They might try to bully you or hurt you.

There's not much you can do about these people except to learn to deal with them, and learn to choose friends who are kind to you, who actually care about you, who make you feel good about yourself. When you find friends like this, hold on to them, treasure them, spend time with them, be kind to them, love them.

There will be times when you are met with disappointment instead of success. Life won't always turn out the way you want. This is just another thing you'll have to learn to deal with. But instead of letting these things get you down, push on. Accept disappointment and learn to persevere, to pursue your dreams despite pitfalls. Learn to turn negatives into positives, and you'll do much better in life.

You will also face heartbreak and abandonment by those you love. I hope you don't have to face this too much, but it happens. Again, not much you can do but to heal, and to move on with your life. Let these pains become stepping stones to better things in life, and learn to use them to make you stronger.

But Be Open to life Anyway

Yes, you'll find cruelty and suffering in your journey through life … but don't let that close you to new things. Don't retreat from life, don't hide or wall yourself off. Be open to new things, new experiences, new people.

You might get your heart broken 10 times, but find the most wonderful woman the 11th time. If you shut yourself off from love, you'll miss out on that woman, and the happiest times of your life.

You might get teased and bullied and hurt by people you meet … and then after meeting dozens of jerks, find a true friend. If you close yourself off to new people, and don't open your heart to them, you'll avoid pain … but also lose out on meeting some incredible people, who will be there during the toughest times of your life and create some of the best times of your life.

You will fail many times but if you allow that to stop you from trying, you will miss out on the amazing feeling of success once you reach new heights with your accomplishments. Failure is a stepping stone to success.

Life Isn't a Competition

You will meet many people who will try to outdo you, in school, in college, at work. They'll try to have nicer cars, bigger houses, nicer clothes, cooler gadgets. To them, life is a competition — they have to do better than their peers to be happy.

Here's a secret: Life isn't a competition. It's a journey. If you spend that journey always trying to impress others, to outdo others, you’re wasting your journey. Instead, learn to enjoy the journey. Make it a journey of Happiness, of constant learning, of continual improvement, of love.

Don't worry about having a nicer car or house or anything material, or even a better-paying job. None of that matters a whit, and none of it will make you happier. You'll acquire these things and then only want more. Instead, learn to be satisfied with having enough — and then use the time you would have wasted trying to earn money to buy those things … use that time doing things you love.

Find your passion, and pursue it doggedly. Don't settle for a job that pays the bills. Life is too short to waste on a job you hate.

Love Should Be Your Rule

If there's a single word you should live your life by, it should be this: Love. It might sound corny, I know … but trust me, there's no better rule in life.

Some would live by the rule of success. Their lives will be stressful, unhappy and shallow.

Others would live by the rule of selfishness — putting their needs above those of others. They will live lonely lives, and will also be unhappy.

Still others will live by the rule of righteousness — trying to show the right path, and admonishing anyone who doesn't live by that path. They are concerned with others, but in a negative way, and in the end will only have their own righteousness to live with, and that's a horrible companion.

Live your life by the rule of love. Love your spouse, your children, your parents, your friends, with all of your heart. Give to them what they need, and show them not cruelty nor disapproval nor coldness nor disappointment, but only love. Open your soul to them.

Love not only your loved ones, but your neighbors … your coworkers … strangers … your brothers and sisters in humanity. Offer anyone you meet a smile, a kind word, a kind gesture, a helping hand.

Love not only neighbors and strangers … but your enemy. The person who is cruelest to you, who has been unkind to you … love him. He is a tortured soul, and most in need of your love.

And most of all, love yourself. While others may criticize you, learn not to be so hard on yourself, to think that you’re ugly or dumb or unworthy of love … but to think instead that you are a wonderful human being, worthy of Happiness and love … and learn to love yourself for who you are.

Finally, know that I love you and always will. You are starting out on a weird, scary, daunting, but ultimately incredibly wonderful journey, and I will be there for you when I can. Godspeed.

Love, Your Dad


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Post time 2008-12-26 09:29:08 |Display all floors
Thank you heatly.
that is very good articles.reading these fresh my soul,make my mood silent,they are goodwhich let me forget sth,and have a hope for future,

I  like them very much! thanks!:)

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Post time 2009-1-30 17:57:01 |Display all floors

经典美文欣赏~~抓住生命中的那颗星
Catch the star that holds your destiny, the one that forever twinkles within your heart. Take advantage of precious opportunities while they still sparkle before you. Always believe that your ultimate goal is attainable as long as you commit yourself to it.

  Though barriers may sometimes stand in the way of your dreams, remember that your destiny is hiding behind them. Accept the fact that not everyone is going to approve of the choices you've made. Have faith in your judgment. Catch the star that twinkles in your heart and it will lead you to your destiny's path. Follow that pathway and uncover the sweet sunrises that await you.

  Take pride in your accomplishments, as they are stepping stones to your dreams. Understand that you may make mistakes, but don't let them discourage you. Value your capabilities and talents for they are what make you truly unique. The greatest gifts in life are not purchased, but acquired through hard work and determination. Find the star that twinkles in your heart?for you alone are capable of making your brightest dreams come true. Give your hopes everything you've got and you will catch the star that holds your destiny.

  当生命中的那颗星在你内心闪耀的时候,要学会把握它,永远相信只要自己持之以恒,就一定能够实现自己心中的梦想。

  尽管通往梦想的道路上总有坎坷,你需要记住的是,你的命运就隐藏在那困难背后。学会接受这样的事实:不是每一个人都赞同你的选择。你要坚定自己的判断走下去。捕捉住那颗在你内心闪耀的星吧,它将引领你抵达自己的命运之路。沿那条路走下去,你就会发现那属于自己的美丽日出。

  为自己的成绩自豪,因为它们是你通往梦想的阶梯。要知道你自己也会犯错误,但是可别因此而气馁。正确评价自己的能力,是它们令你与众不同。生活里最丰厚的礼物不是买来的,而是通过艰苦的努力和决心获得的。找到在你内心闪耀的那颗星吧??虽然你独自一人,但也有能力实现你最辉煌的梦想。对即得的怀抱希望并抓住那颗掌控你命运的星吧。



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Post time 2009-1-30 22:57:33 |Display all floors
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Post time 2009-1-31 22:48:33 |Display all floors
it 's good articles which fresh my soul and make my heart silent .it ignates my passion for the life
i accept it
thanks for sharing and translating it

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