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There is a temple at the foot of Nanshan，and an ancient banyan is in front of it.
One morning,a young monk gets up to clean up the courtyard and sees the fallen leaves from the ancient banyan are everywhere,he can't help worrying and look at the tree to sigh.
For his sorrow is on the toppest,he throws down the broom and rushes to his master's room ,then he knocks on the door to plea for interview.
His master hears it and opens the door,when he sees the disciple's worried look,he thinks something takes place,so he hurries to ask him:" My disciple, what does you worry about so much in the early morning? "
The young disciple is full of doubt and tells him:"Master, you persuades us to be diligent to cultivate our moral character and grasp the truth day and night,but, even I learn them well ,it is hard to avoid to die.Till that time,so-called me, so-called Dao, aren't they just like the defoliation in autumn or the deadwood in winter? and they will be buried by a heap of loess?"
After hearing it ,the old monk points at the ancient banyan and says to the young monk:" My disciple ,you don't need to worry about this.In fact, the defoliation in autumn and the deadwood in winter will climb back to the trees silently and become the flowers in spring and grow up into the leaves in summer at the time of autumnal winds is blowing strongliest and the snow falls down most heavily."
?? " Why don't i see it?"
?? " It is the reason that there isn't any view in your heart, so you can't see the bloom ."
?? facing the withering defoliations and imaging they will be in bud,it needs to have an immortal of spring heart, an optimism of heart.
There are always some miseries you will meet in your whole life and strike you when you are unprepared, but we don't need to worry day after day for the arrival of this day, and feel sorry to yourself.
?? Treating the life with the attitude of the optimism, it can not only dissolve the agony and misfortune , but also bring a kind of pleased mood to you everyday and make your life bright and flourishing .
?? As long as the view is in the heart,aren't the paths full of fragrance of flowers everywhere?
The people love you and you love爱你的和你爱的
Seek a person who loves you, forget the person whom you love,in this sentence, the person that loves you and the person whom you love are definitely not the same one." Wish to seek a person who loves you",it is daintily substantial, only accept love, don't need to pay anything.Only we haven't heard that the split life will be happy,and the love seems incompletely to do business, you won't always win if the earnings is bigger the cost.Contrary , for the love itself,loving other is more worth to bless than being loved by other .The psychologist named Erich Fromm says in his famous book named the Art of Loving:"First, good love is' to give' but not 'to get',because 'to give'is happier than'to get', to give is not to sacrifice.Instead, it states the 'rich' and 'vitality'. "Sadly, like a reason for the poor, not only because he is poor,but also his capability of "giving" is taken away.
I believe the lot, I like to let it be.Choosing the one i love, loving the one i choose,and spending my life without regrets.
10 tips about rescuing you from the pressure
Have you ever had this kind of feeling that the pressure from the work and family nearly compel you to be crazy?Let you breathe heavily.So, before the pressure threatens your health, you should think of some ways to rescue yourself from it!
1.Only worry an affair every time .Women's worriment usually exceeds the men.The researchers of the Harvard carries on the research to 166 married husband and wife for 6 week, and discovering women prefer to think about all the aspects about the problems ,so women often feel more stressed than men.She will consider her own work, weight, and also the health of each member of the family and so on
2.Concentrate energy for several minutes everyday.For example,the current work is to type this report well, other affairs should be thrown after the brain and don't think about any one of them.By-time of the work, you can also spend 20 minutes to relax yourself, just take a walk and take no account of your work,and focus on everything of your surrounding only, such like what you see, what you hear ,what you feel and smell, etc.
3.Speak or write out your misgiving.Record the diary, or talk with friends together, you will not feel lonely and helpless at least.The medical experts of the United States ever divided some persons who got the rheumatism arthritis or asthma into groups,the groupers in one group performed their duties in a perfunctory manner on recording the things that they did every day.The groupers in another group were requested to keep their diaries earnestly everyday, including their fear and aches.Then the researchers found out the result:The groupers in the last group seldom felt worried and anxious because of their own diseases.
4.Whatever how busy you are,you must take exercise.The detection from the researcher was that the pressure level of the tester would descend 25% after stepping on the treadmill for 30 minutes.If will be OK if you choose to go to the gym and walk quickly for 30 minutes, or do some stretch exercise when you get up.
5.Enjoy the fun of the massage.It is not only the the traditional massage of the whole body ,and also includes the massage of the bottom of the feet , manicure or hairdressing, these can let you feel relaxed.
6.Slow down the speed of your talking.Perhaps your table is full of the documents that you should have a look everyday , your right hand is picking up the telephone, and the left hand still needs to thumb the data.You have to cope with the mixed people and say various words.So you must remember that you should try your best to keep the optimistic attitude and slow down your speed as far as possible.
7.Don't be too serious.Might as well say a small joke with friend together and laugh loudly, if the atmosphere is active,you will also be relaxed.In fact, smiling will not only can ease the strain, but also promote the function of the immunity of the human body.
8.Don't let the negative voice around yourself and force you to be crazy.The boss may say that you can't do this or that,actually,you have many advantages,simply the boss doesn't discover them.
9.Relax yourself for a whole day .Read a novel, sing a song, drink a cup of tea , or simply sit before the window and be in a daze .By this time the key is the feeling of of your heart, a kind of serenity, a kind of relaxation.
10.Remember a good affair which takes place today at least.Whatever how hard you are today ,how unhappy you are,after you are back home , you should share one of today's good affairs with you family.
[ Last edited by zhangxinyue at 2007-6-30 08:38 AM ]