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Originally posted by xiaoxiao1982 at 2007-4-17 11:54
Westerners would say : "Why doesnt she divorce him?''
Chinese would say :" "resort to a divorce which obviously does her no good and in the end gets no fortune..''
I can see the chinese point of view AND the western one... I think the difference lies in what would likely happen AFTER divorce. In the west, divorce is not s horrible thing. If a man meets you and likes you and you say you're divorced, he will probably be ok with that, especially if you're both a little older. EVen in the US, a lot of people (especially when they're still young) would prefer a person who's never been married yet, but as people get older they realize that s*** happens.... relationships change, people don't keep their promises, people get divorced. It's not evil, it's not that you're a bad person, you're not "ruined" in some way... you still may be a great person who simply was in a bad situation. So among people over 30 or 40, if they're looking for someone they'll be more likely to accept someone who's been divorced.
And I also agree that ALL women should have a healthy amount of self-worth. In the US it would be more shameful to stay in a marriage where you (and maybe everyone else) know you're being lied to, cheated on, disrespected, maybe abused, etc. It's like kids on a playground... if a bigger kids bullies you, will you put your head down and take it or will you fight back, or at least walk away with your head up saying, "You're a jerk, I don't have to put up with you, see ya!"
Would you stand up for your best friend or sister who is being treated like crap? Then why won't you stand up for yourself when you're being treated like crap?
(that's a western view, I think. I'm from there.)
[ Last edited by freakyqi at 2007-4-18 12:27 PM ]