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I'm enjoying china very much, thanks! It's challenging, that's for sure. I like my new job, and I'm realizing that when I go back to the states I will starve because I'll miss all this good food. |
XILAREN - SORRY!!! I just realized I got caught up in telling someone how to know if THEY love another person, but YOU ASKED how to tell if THEY LOVE YOU! Yikes, can you ever forgive me?
SO.... how to tell if they love you? I don't know. No, really, I could give all kinds of ways but I don't think they're the same for everyone. There was someone in my life for a very long time, and I often wondered if (& how much) he loved me.... he was not the type to say it or display such things, and I found it difficult to feel secure with him. I'd tell myself "he may not say it but he's HERE all this time... and he takes care of me in a lot of ways...." then I'd argue with myself, "But why is he here? That doesn't mean he loves me; if he doesn't say it then I shouldn't be foolish enough to imagine he does... then someday he might say "I never said I loved you" and I will be a big fool"...
Oh the turmoil..... I cried many times over it. (don't anyone say "why didn't you ask him", of course I did, and the answers were often vague or he'd say "why do you have to ask that" or something).....
So showing love might come in different ways, especially from men who may have been brought up to be strong, or who didn't get a lot of affection, or.... whatever.
I wish I had a good answer. I'll be looking out for one here. For now we'll hug each other.