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Once someone asked me about how I felt about love, marriage etc......|
What humans want most out of life, if they had to chose one thing, is to love and be loved. No one on their death bed ever regrets choosing that over anything else. I mean who would ever say," I wish I had gotten more money"....or "I wish I had gotten that job/carreer", on their death bed? No, people at their last moments contemplate on their relationships ( quality or lack of ) in their lives. I think people should take stock of their lives and relationships at least once a year and think about if it is the way it should be, or the way they would want it if they were to "kick the bucket" right now. After all, you never know when your "number", or your relations "number" is up. Don't waste your time on this earth, find your love, keep your love. One of the biggest obstacles to love is ego ( pride ) and fear ( lack of trust ). If you want to make a relationship to work, or find one, your ego and fear must "die" ( for you to love ). You have to take the chance, however many, that your heart may be broken. It may hurt, but you will not die, but if you cease to try to love, you will be like a living dead. Love is soft, love is gentle. Don't be overly agressive in your search, it will only elude you more. It will come on it's own, but not if you hide yourself. Get out there.
Do not confuse love with physical pleasures, for when it is over what do you have? Nothing. Nothing but lost of respect, for self, for others, and the black hole in your heart from the realization that you weren't loved, you were used ( or you used another ). Don't destroy yourselves in this way.
In marriage you both must remember to continue this "dying" to one another. If one person in the marriage dosen't, it will become a fragile thing, easily destroyed by the obstacles that life WILL throw at you. In dealing with your spouse always assume the best, not the worst, is being done or said to you. Don't jump to conclusions, by doing so you give in to your fear and ego. It is controlling your emotions, and not letting your emotions control you.