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Ok, it's been a few days, time to email her! Unless you have already. |
Don't worry about who paid, and that she said email instead of phone, etc. Judge by how the conversation went, and she DID say to email her if you want to go out again. I wouldn't have said that if I didn't want to go out again. Don't worry that you're emailing, I'm not a phone person. I don't like just sitting there talking in my own house, I feel like I'm wasting time, there's something awkward about it. For me, phones are for keeping in touch with people who are far, and for quick things, like "ok, I'm on my way, where should I meet you?" and stuff like that. Maybe I have some 'phone problem" but I really don't like talking on them. I like to either do things in person or email.
In fact, in my recent efforts to meet people, I put out an "ad" looking for activity/language partners, and a few people replied by saying absolutely nothing about themselves, just "You sound interesting, give me your number"... I was like... yeah right, whatever, I have no idea who you are, not one thing about you and I'm gonna give you my phone number? For me, my phone number is a semi-private thing. I know anyone CAN get it somehow, but I do NOT want people I barely know calling me at any old time, interrupting my work, food shopping, on a bus, etc. My phone number is for people who I really really want or need to get in touch with me at any moment. So don't feel offended if you don't get her number for a while, some of us are like that.
ALthough - I guess I would give my cellphone # to someone if I was meeting them somewhere, especially somewhere odd being here in china, to make sure we both get there or explain why I'm late if I have a problem.
SO... email her. Tell her you enjoyed talking with her, etc, whatever you want to say you enjoyed (pick a thing or two you enjoyed), and maybe ask what other things she likes to do so you can do something next time rather than just eat. Maybe name a few general things & see which she likes, then you can plan it.
small concert coming up?
movie? (no, not yet)
weird, but... Xmas shopping together at a mall?
antique car show?
miniature golf? (too cold?)
Small local play, maybe for Xmas if you both celebrate that
find out if she's the exercisey-physical type, if so, maybe... ice skating? indoor climbing lesson? think of something (or two) you've always wanted to try, that you may even suck at, and tell her you've always wanted to try it, has she ever done it - if not does she want to try with you?
Oh, shopping - forget the mall idea - how about a quaint little town with lots of small unique shops, like New Hope, PA? It's right on the border of NJ/PA. It's got about 4-5 streets of unusual shops (antiques, clothes, pottery, everything), cafes, tiny art galleries, bars (some with live music if it's a weekend) - you can stroll & choose as you go along what you'll (sorry, ehem, she'll ) want to do. They also have walking tours of old houses or of the neighborhood, one of them talks about ghost legends in the area. They also have a mule barge ride..... maybe not in winter, and boat rides up & down the Delaware River (about an hour each).
There's a whole website just for New Hope, but maybe it's far from you. I went there several times, twice with a senior citizen group, then I had to go back on my own to explore at my own speed & look at cooler stuff than I could get away with while leading seniors around town. There's a nearby playhouse down the road from it, an old barn-looking thing, I think.