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Originally posted by cyberspook at 2006-9-1 17:56
I have a bit of a problem with my mother, she is a racist she absolutely hates Asian's, she hates African Americans as well, I don't know where she gets it from but it is going to have a large impa ...
Wow, that's too bad. You're in for some rough times I think, but I also think she'll soften over time once she sees you're happy with that person and she gets to know her. Ultimately parents want to see us with someone that's GOOD for us, and if this new woman is good to you, and your mom can see you're happy together, she'll soften. Heck, she may even be secretly proud YOU'RE not racist. (I'm a mom too, I'm imagining what it would be like; we want our kids to be better than us, really)
My dad is racist too, BUT I can see that he's become less racist over time. When I was 16, he flat out told me which races I'd better not bring home. (and I thought, "ok, I'll go to their houses instead") But I had a conversation recently with him and asked what if I wanted to marry a black or asian or whatever guy, and he said something like... if he has a good job and treats you right, then i don't have a problem with it. !!! My mouth dropped, I was so surprised to hear him say that! So there is hope.... BTW, he would want a white guy to also "have a good job and treat me right".
HAha... maybe it's because I almost married a white guy he hated and DIDN'T treat me right or have a good job.... or because I'm getting older and he just wants to see me married and will "compromise" now or something.. haha... I dont' know... actually he works with other races now, maybe he's seen successful people of other races & sees they're friendly nice people, etc....
Just stick to it and keep repeating your best lines.
Good luck with that.