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Post time 2006-7-12 21:40:39 |Display all floors
i've really been feeling frustrated when friends ask me do them a favor the very moment i am too busy with my duties, but i really dont wanna say 'no' to them as i dont want see them being hurt. But once i am on the way to their assistance,  i can't help asking myself if i really have to do them the favor while i am having my own affairs to attend to? what can i do?  i just feel guilty when i say 'no' to friends.  do u have similar experiences.  How do u cope with such an embarrassing situation?

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Post time 2006-7-12 22:37:52 |Display all floors
Handle yours before you handle mines~
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Post time 2006-7-12 23:53:58 |Display all floors
Originally posted by eyeofstorm at 2006-7-12 22:37
Handle yours before you handle mines~


i would not turn to u for help if i could handle mine,,,.

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Post time 2006-7-13 02:02:37 |Display all floors
do u feel guilty when u say 'no'?


NO
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Post time 2006-7-13 05:56:04 |Display all floors
Sometimes I do. I really don't know what to do about it though.
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. When I don't feel guilty, it's usually because I truly cannot do it, I have a more important thing to do. But if not, and I just really don't want to, then I feel more guilty.

Maybe just treat it like a business appointment, either you have time for it or you don't. If you have a doctor's appointment on friday but someone needs a favor for that time, will you feel guilty? I wouldn't.

But if friday I'd planned to do something for ME, like go exercise or see a friend, then I might feel guilty saying no.

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Post time 2006-7-13 08:26:54 |Display all floors
Originally posted by freakyqi at 2006-7-13 05:56
Sometimes I do. I really don't know what to do about it though.
Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. When I don't feel guilty, it's usually because I truly cannot do it, I have a more important thi ...


have u ever read a novel titled 'Dont Feel Guilty When u Say 'No'?

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Post time 2006-7-13 08:35:19 |Display all floors

No

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