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an American woman says...
Well, you probably already know most American's points of view if that's where you're from, but you asked everyone, so...|
I've never really thought of anyone as being "master" of a house. I'd say it takes teamwork. By that I mean a willingness to balance and share responsibilities and decision-making however the two people see fit. Every couple might be different. Every person in the house, even children and grandparents, should have their roles, even if it's simply taking out the garbage.
As far as MASTER, that's weird... do you mean like, who can tell the other one what to do? Or if there's a disagreement, who gets the final say? Again, I say neither, or compromise or take turns or something. To me, the word "master" is very..... dictatorial... like the master is the king or is totally responsible for the others. I don't think that's ever the case, or should be. Then it's like you have slaves instead of a family.
As a single mom, I guess I'm automatically "master", but I still keep harmony & give my son a sense of control and freedom by letting him decide some things within limits - like:
"Ok, we need to clean the bathroom, do you want to clean the toilet or the bathtub?"
"We have an hour before we leave - either do schoolwork or clean your room."
I'm being master, but letting him decide something.