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Understandable but misdirected
To be honest, I like your culture posts, such as the Zhongshan Kingdom, etc. you are really trying to bring your culture here and it's educating and entertaining. On the other hand frustration, rage and anger are apparent in most of your posts.|
You have good reasons and I agree with you that many Westerners are looking for easy girls in the East. The question is, why do Chinese girls tend to prefer foreigners over Asians? I think, that many of them think of financial benefits (not all though), some of them have the perception that Caucasians are more handsome/beautiful (there the media is to blame; how many white faces you see in China TV commercials???) and the most important reason is that Asian women feel, that they can have relationship based on respect, equality and passion with a Western guy.
I know a lot of girls who are afraid of dating with Chinese. The question in their head is always: If this relationship gets serious and if we marry; how will he treat me? Will I become the housewive and mother or can I continue my career? After I give birth to his child, will I still be of interest to him, or will he cheat with a younger girl, while I take care of his child? And if he has an affair, will he still want to keep the relationship with me?
These questions many of Chinese women of today ask themselves and they dread the answers. They are forced into roles, which are unbearable for them and they are not willing to accept it. So, they turn to the Westerners, who they think will treat them right, let them escape from their traditional role and who will cherish the relation they have. (Not all Westerners are like that)
So the solution for the Asian guys is to start respecting your women, let them express themselves, don't put pressure about a child on them, let them develop their careers, treat them as equal partners, learn that your satisfaction is not as important as hers, and DON'T cheat on her.. Then you should be able to score. After all you have "home advantage" you are from the same cultural background.
It will take some time to change the perception of Asian women towards Asians, but I think sooner or later some of them will turn back to their roots.