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oh man! Ok, I'm a bit tipsy, so sue me for drink and write ^^;
Sorry, just came back from a lunch outing, and I have a lot of beer in my system, so excuse me if I'm out of line.|
Starryeyed, try to put yourself in the guy's shoes. I grew up in the US, but if a girlfriend proposed to me, I would be caught off guard and be pretty shocked. It goes against the mainstream culture, it goes against our ego, and isn't something that we are conditioned to expect. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with it. No, logically, there is nothing wrong with a girl asking... it’s just a little awkward for us guys to find something that we expect to be firmly in our grasp to be suddenly in the hands of a girl.
If that's true here in the west, then I'm going to guess that it's going to knock a guy in china for a loop, especially if he's relatively young and inexperienced with relationships.
Even though my wife all but gave me an ultimatum about getting married, she refrained from asking me to marry her outright. I would urge you to be more discrete about it. I think it would be a lot safer if you just drop him a lot of hints about wanting to get married, letting him know that you would say “yes” and it’s safe to propose. It's better to let a man convince himself of a decision than being pushed into one. It's in our nature to want to maintain a sense of control, even if it's largely imaginary.