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talk to him
I agree with the responses above. Even the most "modern" man in the West would feel at little a little bit odd taking money from his girlfriend, esp. if he knows it's coming from her family (they have better things to spend money on than some guy.) In some relationships now, women make more money or even the men stay at home! But, in those situations, it takes a little while for the man to get used to this non-traditional role. And, was they do it's because each person has recognized and understand the roles and is content with that. In your situation, there is not a real understanding.
You've been with him for a while, so it would be a shame to throw it away, so ask yourself these (and I'm sure you have)....
Has he ever (earlier on) expressed discomfort at accepting the money?
If he did not ever before. Dump him!!! If he did and felt embarassed, it's been kind that you've helped him. However, he may be "taking it for granted" now, that is, not appreciating it.
How long has he been out of a job?
If it's been months, he is now "freeloading" off you. It's very kind and I think the right thing to do to help him through a troubled time, but it seems he may have become just a little bit TOO comfortable with his "uncomfortable" position.
You need to talk with him and say very honestly that you expect an equal relationship, but you understand sometimes not all things can be equal so you should each help to keep it balanced when it's not. It's become unequal for a while now. And, you will continue to provide him with support, for example, emotional, ideas, friendship, love, but you can't continue to provide him this kind of support financially. What can he do to re-balance the relationship??? What's his plan to change the situation? This imbalance cannot continue.
If he sounds a little bit hurt by this question, but understands it and why you ask it, and he is willing to give you something more, then maybe he is going through a tough time.
If he gets upset and blames you for asking the question, tell him you're very disappointed this is how your kindness is received and you will give somebody more deserving your kindness.
I hope it works out well for you. It's not easy, I know.