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I don't entirely agree
Every man has his breaking point. I know I got one, and so do you. This is why my wife didn't want me to go to china, and I agreed because I know it's a risk not worth taking.|
To say that the man had it coming is taking the easy way out. He had a happy family, and after all these years of marriage, he didn’t have a problem here. But there was enough temptation in china to make him risk all that he had for a girl. You don't think the girls here are good looking enough? No. I think it has more to do with the fact that over here, there are fewer girls of that type, and we are more insulated from them by our religions, families, even companies where we work (dating between employees are banned where I work).
We all know how distance and time can weakens a relationship. So that's one factor. The other is the exotic nature of the encounter, the novelty has an extra "pull". Then there is the “business” practice – what’s with all the alcohol? Then there is the aggressive nature of some chinese girls and their infatuation with everything western. I have also heard from colleagues who have been there, the hotel calls and all.
Not to say that all chinese girls are like that, I’m sure they are a very small minority, but when you have 1.3 billion people, a small % is a large number. Also, I'm not saying everyone will give in. But it's certainly not a favorable environment for foreigners (or even business men away from home) to maintain loyalty. And anyone who says that he can maintain moral compass under any temptation is not being realistic.
I sincerely hope that my loyalty to my wife can withstand a test like that. But I’m all too keenly aware that we all have our breaking points. That’s why it’s not a test I’m willing to risk unless I have to. By not volunteering for the last opening in China, I'm practicing my free will. It's a shame that the knowledge I used to make that decision had to come from the ruins of another family.