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Age difference...............Two people of the same age, one extremely immature, spoiled, temper tantrums if he/she does not their way. Another mature, both feet on the ground, considers life logically, plans into the future. |
Age difference.............Woman over 30, child, bitter from her marraige, family values, personal values shamed by society because her husband cheated. Man 50, no women of quality, foundation of the family, young enough but to old in years.
Age difference..........Woman 55, healthy, vibrant mentally active, attractive, children gone. Man 38, child, no women of quality to help raise his child. Dated but disappointed in who he has found.
Which couples have the best relationship? It isn't culture, race or even wealth that attracts most people. It is the needs of each to be fulfilled. Most men and women love to raise a child, even after they have raised their own. Both men and women need security, different types of security but still security. We often revert to our base instincts when choosing a mate according to what our genetics demand of us. Can he provide the masculine qualities her genetics demand, and can she provide the feminine qualities his genetics demand.
We often wonder to ourselves, "how did those two ever get together"?
Primarily we all ask these questions which are derived from our own genetic values. We apply our own values to their situation. Therein is the answer. We can not apply our genetic values to others because theirs are different from ours. An older person who is clear headed will apply their genetic values, man or woman. A younger adult with a child will also do the same.
The variation is the younger female or male with some past experiences will choose a mate only understanding some of their own base genetic needs. That results in unhappieness as before with other males or females.
So it comes down to the individuals involved. If each is mature in knowing their own base genetic needs, then they join with success. The others may have degrees of success which are sufficient to maintain a contented individual. That all depends on their tolerance of their own base values that are missing in the other. But if there is not enough of the base needs being met, it ends in failure.
The importance of a long term relationship before committment is vital to the success of the committed relationship afterwards.
There are many more factors, but the base genetic needs are involved first. Always. Even with short term relationships, the base genetics start with visual values of the individuals involved.