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Post time 2018-12-21 07:19:11 |Display all floors
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Post time 2018-12-21 09:59:30 |Display all floors
The mother is wrong on the 'advice' she's giving her daughter.

She is denying the worth of appearance because she's already above average herself.  Or maybe she's just trying to console her average-looking daughter.

It's almost a universal law of nature that other than for peacocks, the female species is always physically more attractive because anatomically they usually act as the passive receptacles.

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Post time 2018-12-21 16:58:37 |Display all floors
The mother has a point;  she is trying to teach her daughter not to fall into the trap many Chinese girls fall into, ie  obsessed with physical appearance to the extent of going for expensive cosmetic surgery to improve their looks, even surgery to lengthen their legs and improve their height, often in botched surgery and extreme pain, endangering their lives;  one even died on the operating table in S Korea, not long ago;  spending huge on cosmetics etc etc, in a society that values looks over other personal attributes like responsible social behavior, honesty, kindness towards the less fortunate, etc.

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Post time 2018-12-21 17:28:36 |Display all floors
In some degree ..I agree with the mother
Not saying beauty is not important at all .. read is a good habit and you can improve yourself through books ..

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Post time 2018-12-22 11:42:45 |Display all floors
This post was edited by wchao37 at 2018-12-22 12:16

I disagree with the mother here especially now that cosmetics (which reflect the sophistication of our chemicals industry) are so readily available -- you don't even have to leave your room to buy products that can enhance your physical attributes so that you can have a better life all around, so why not?

Ladies, you need to make your man proud and act as his mei guan deng.  Every woman should understand that elementary fact of life.  

Note that no one is saying here that beauty is the only thing that matters, but here the mother is saying that physical appearance is 'MEANINGLESS.'  That's what makes her statement unacceptable to me -- it is an extremist view that should be opposed.

A woman should strive to be physically attractive by all means because that makes the first impression whose importance no psychologist can ever over-emphasize.

That gives a woman a competitive advantage in many areas of interaction -- courtship, marriage, careers, public life.

This applies to women everywhere because if every other lady looks better than you do in a public place simply because you haven't done your best to enhance your positive side, you will very likely develop a self-inferiority complex.

If you've tried your best to enhance your appearance and yet you still lose your boyfriend to your competition, then there's no one else to blame but you yourself and perhaps your parents.

One of the reasons why the First Lady is so popular (like a 'magnesium light bulb') is that her previous training as a vocalist renders her very sensitive to her own physical appearance and public image, which in turn helps to make people feel proud of her.

To have a presentable physical appearance is not 'MEANINGLESS.'

Not only is this not vanity, it is part and parcel of etiquette (li mao) in our modern society.

And that's what makes it a highly visible part of Gaige Kaifang.

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Post time 2018-12-23 04:37:18 |Display all floors
wchao37 Post time: 2018-12-21 09:59
The mother is wrong on the 'advice' she's giving her daughter.

She is denying the worth of appearan ...

Sure enough, calling an attractive lady a "passive receptacle" is extremely flattering. I understand that this romantic compliment was often used by Harvey Weinstein.

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Post time 2018-12-24 02:05:53 |Display all floors
Beauty is only skin deep

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