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hi654 Post time: 2017-5-3 17:36
> Sixty percent of Chinese parents tell their children to fight back when bullied
You know, this is ...
Bullies target people. It has nothing to do with putting yourself into a situation, nor does it have anything to do with spirituality,or anything else. It could be something as simple as the colour of your shirt, or the sandwich in your lunchbox. If you have something the bully wants, or doesn't like, you become a target.
By not fighting back, by not telling anyone, by keeping the bullying trapped inside of yourself, it often leads to depression, feelings of worthlessness, of being third-rate, and a lot of the time, it leads to suicide.
You have to watch your child's moods. If they often come home from school hungry, or late, disheveled, aloof about their school day, etc., that could be a sign of bullying. If they say their day was "okay", and refuse to talk more about it ... if they dread going to school (this is often in the days leading up to an attempt to take their own life), or you find out they are leaving the house but never arriving at school ... these are all signs of bullying related behaviour.
Bullies only stop when they get a taste of their own medicine. if no one stands up to them, they carry that behaviour into adulthood, often becoming spousal and/or child abusers, overbearing supervisors/employers, or worse.
Talk to your children. If there are signs of bullying, teach them to defend themselves.