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Post time 2014-10-19 10:08:27 |Display all floors
This post was edited by bfsuleo at 2014-10-19 10:44

Recently my girlfriend broke up with me just because she discovered that I had an online affair with another girl. I think lots of men may have similar experience with me that we simply consider connecting with someone online as a sexual outlet, without actually meeting to have sex. Many men who have emotional affair even may have never seen each other’s faces, or heard one another’s voices, so I don’t think emotional infidelity is really cheating.


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Post time 2014-10-19 10:33:32 |Display all floors
your girlfriend must regard this behavior as betrayal..

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Post time 2014-10-19 10:38:26 |Display all floors


Here's my solution. If you accept your girlfriend to flirt with another men online, then you two are even.

Hope this helps!
There is one spectacle grander than the sea, that is the sky; there is one spectacle grander than the sky, that is the interior of the soul.-Victor Hugo

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Post time 2014-10-19 10:40:18 |Display all floors
Its cheating
Denial, according the psychoanalysts, is one of the most primary mechanisms of defense. It consists in the attitude of denying or minimizing obvious facts of reality with which the individual can´t  cope or whose irresponsibility is unable to meet.

And I agree.

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Post time 2014-10-19 10:58:16 |Display all floors
What kind of a man has online affairs? Either a virgin boy or nerd.

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Post time 2014-10-19 11:52:43 |Display all floors
Unfortunately you seem to be misguide to the trust and respect that relationship are supposed to hold. It is similar to a contract, to be loyal, faithful and respect each other. To indulge in sexual talk with others, especially stranger is stating that you must be missing something that you do not find in your supposedly steady relationship. Maybe you needed, or were seeking to introduce something new into your sex life. You have broken the trust, so I understand why your ex terminated the relationship. People have different values and thinking, what if was vice versa and you found your girlfriend holding a sex conference with a stranger on-line? there are stages, what if the stranger ask her to then remove items of clothing, or video surely you would not be content or happy with this. Most like to think that what they have is personal to them. If you are indulging in a sexual online conference then where do you draw the line? Sure some men, not all, will have some kind of sexual fantasy, its OK in your head but not in person with others, it is obvious that something is missing your past relationship. It is mostly excepted by women if men have affairs, but most men will not except this. two tier standards. Again relationships are about  trust, honesty, respect to each other and good communication. Personally I believe that what you entered into online with another was a dangerous situation, putting your relationship in jeopardy and you should have thought about any possible repercussion. Just my personal view of course.

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Post time 2014-10-19 12:02:47 |Display all floors
onceaknight Post time: 2014-10-19 11:52
Unfortunately you seem to be misguide to the trust and respect that relationship are supposed to hol ...

I agree and amdire this insightful post of yours!

There is one spectacle grander than the sea, that is the sky; there is one spectacle grander than the sky, that is the interior of the soul.-Victor Hugo

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