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This article, translated from sina.com, focuses on the personal experiences of three women who are in relationships with European men so that we can get a real inside look on what it is like.|
Wang Bang, reporter. English husband, poet: “Our main principle is to respect each other”
Because most of my friends hadn’t associated with Western men before, they thought that Western men were very open, for example that they carried guns, or that they are all players or something. When in fact, people like that are not mainstream.
But when you get into a relationship, everyone is equal, and there is freedom. Once you have that one-on-one commitment, everyone is loyal to each other, there is no polygamy, there are no mistresses or home wreckers.
How to deal with English society that is much more open about sex? The way we handle it is by negotiating and compromise. We can go to the sex shop alone, we can watch porn and read erotic novels, but we cannot have sex outside of marriage. If you are invited to an adult party, both sides have to agree on attendance. Regardless of if I do or do not agree, my husband is actually more conservative (laughs), so there is no disagreement. I believe that our marriage is full of care, love and respect for eachother!
Life’s trivialness is hard to avoid, but we always aim for a romantic life. Whenever I get angry, I will punish my husband by making him write a love letter (laughs). Even if we end up having one thousand conflicts, we will talk through them all.
Chinese boyfriends, of course, have advantages that Western men just don’t have. For example, they are senstive and considerate, they carry their girlfriend’s bag, and will always pay the bill. But foreign men also have their advantages, for example they will encourage independent thinking, they dare to talk about love, and are very good communicators.